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Recommendations for a healthy sexual life, which transmits mass culture, affect your ideas about sex. It does not matter whether you follow these tips or not. Sexual education emancipates people, raises important problems, but, at the same time, creates certain stereotypes. The researchers have studied sex culture in different countries; they have looked into blogs, magazines, reality shows, newspapers, applications and other sources of information and concluded that certain advice about sex is rarely uniquely bad or good. It all depends on how the reader will perceive it. Nevertheless, most of the recommendations sound like sex taboos in American culture and form harmful beliefs. Here are just four harmful statements that researchers have found in most sexual advice. The article was prepared by Primedating.com.
1. There is a scenario for "right" sex.
Certain beliefs of sex in popular culture make many men hold to the standard plan for turning the girl on, like "kiss a girl – caress her tits – penetrate her vagina.” Even those recommendations that go beyond this formula, by default, suggest that the penetration is better than all other types of sexual activity. On the one hand, these rules once helped women understand what exactly it is necessary to do and what to expect if there is a naked nice man in front of them. On the other hand, it is difficult for many people to imagine an intimate life somehow differently. Contact without penetration is not considered to be full-fledged sex at all, although women can get no less pleasure from it. However, beliefs about "right" and "wrong" sex exclude other erotic practices. Following certain scenarios, both of you don’t think about your desires, and you don’t share your thoughts with the partner.
2. Some bodies are sexual, others are not.
This is one of the most negative influences of popular culture, which tell you that a person must necessarily look perfect to have good sex and enjoy it. Nobody wants to think that the fat fifty-year-old bodies can also get an orgasm. In addition, a big number of girls with a magnificent bosom, a fantastically thin waist and a hot ass on the Internet, shakes another girl's confidence even if they are also pretty and slender. Tips on how to look sexy, create only psychological problems and eternal dissatisfaction with yourself.
3. The quality of your sex depends only on you.
Sexual problems are almost always in the head of a particular person or a couple. Few people deliberately make love badly or do not get pleasure from sex. However, it is worth paying more attention to how social and cultural stereotypes of sex in pop culture limit your opportunities for sexual pleasure. For example, the attitude towards oral sex is still very unambiguous in many relationships. Sex cannot be a set of specific skills and movements, it always includes a set of cultural, social and other attitudes that cannot be overcome with one phrase, "Do not be shy."
4. Getting pleasure is an indispensable condition.
The sex advice emphasizes that you must get sexual pleasure. This is even considered a sign of a healthy person and normal relationships. To get pleasure means only to reach an orgasm, this is the final and the main goal of the full process. Such a purposeful approach to sex creates unnecessary pressure and prevents relaxation. You are focused on "whether I’ll be able to cum and whether I’ll be able to satisfy her." Most of the advice comes down to a set of specific actions, not paying attention to the complex interweaving of pleasure and other feelings like duty, shame, disappointment, relief.