Benefits of Being Single

One quick reminder of what it feels like to be single on a whim. First off, being single means having to deal with the constant nagging of “I just met someone I think would make a perfect match for you.”

Or having to put up with your family members and some of your miserable hitched friends who think their lives are picture-perfect simply because they have a consistent flow of sex and a couple of crumb snatchers. They see this as reason to constantly remind you that you’re not getting any younger and should be thinking of locking someone in.

No one seems to get it—you can just be single out of your own free will. They think that either you haven’t met the right person or you’ve set your standards too damn high and you’re scaring off potential suitors.

It has always been the societal expectation that one should at least be getting ready to be married by the time they hit the age of thirty. Go past this age without showing signs of settling down and you risk being swamped with stink eyes from almost every married person and Baby Boomer you know.

However, for those interested in being single regardless of how society views it, let's explore some of the benefits of being single.

Flirt With Anyone You Want

Being single means you can admire, lust over, or flirt with almost anyone you find attractive without being taunted with a sense of guilt. Even better, you can act on these feelings with anyone you please.

This may come off as primal reasoning, but the idea of maintaining your independence and NOT feeling like you must stifle your attraction to someone can be liberating. It gives you the autonomy to explore the options right under your nose.

If you’ve been out of the dating pool for quite a long time, or for any reason you feel that your game has grown a tad rusty, you may have to study up on how to flirt to get any actual results.

No Fear of Being Cuckolded, Two-Timed, or Cheated On

How many couples spend a good chunk of their precious time worrying of being cuckolded or two-timed by their partners?

Well, being single means that you’ll be spending your entire single life stress-free, without even a hint of fear of finding out that the person you happen to be in a relationship with might actually be a love rat.

So instead of worrying about the things you have zero control over, single life allows you to worry about yourself, your future, and other more important things rather than winning over the trust of someone you might never share a future with.

There’s a Valuable Life Lesson to be Drawn from Single Life

There’s a series of valuable life lessons, with regards to personal growth, that you can only leverage when you’re single.

For a man, leading a single life can mean learning how to take calculated risks, understanding women, being a good conversationalist, handling different social situations, or managing your time schedule.

Some even learn later in life how to be emotionally stable on their own, without depending on their partners or spouses. Many can't accomplish this without being single for a chunk of their adult life. The sad truth for those who’ve NOT reached a level where they can consider themselves an emotional rock is that they may never learn to be autonomous without living single for a while.

Know How Deep Your Emotional Well Goes

This is particularly important when you’re in your twenties. Until you get to your thirties (the age when you’re at your sexual prime), you may never realize how important this one step was to your personal growth.

The best approach to testing your emotional capacity is to try to spend enough time alone trying to uncover who you really are—understand your strong points, your weaknesses, and a number of ways you can make yourself better on your own.

And it’s only until you’ve gotten to a point where you feel you’ve learned a lot about yourself that you can go ahead and take in someone else. You need to be the best you can alone before you should find a partner you feel would make you a better version of yourself and thusly help you fill in the gaps.

Creating Room for the Perfect Match

While some people may view single life as being lonely, someone who’s living single to experience the benefits of being single, it can mean creating space for the right match, a hell-yes partner. Not just someone you took in out of desperation or the need to please those mounting pressure on you.

Single life gives you the time to visualize the kind of person you’d want for a partner, and it’s only after you know what you're looking for that you can go ahead and start looking for a partner.

If you’re not sure about someone or don’t think the relationship you have is doing you any good, one alternative to trying out the benefits of being single is seeing if an open relationship would work for you and your partner.

No Emotional Drama 

It’s always every couple’s desire to make things work when they’re starting out in a relationship. But to make this happen, each one of them must be prepared to deal with all issues that will arise along the way.

That means at some point you’ll have to take care of your partner’s emotions, even if it means ignoring your own.

During most relationships, you'll experience a point when you’ll feel like doing something that may be beneficial to you may actually be hurting your partner. That’s in fact one of the reasons so many lovers spend sleepless nights whenever something goes awry in their relationship. They can’t just stop blaming themselves for whatever it is that their partner is going through.

Being in a relationship doesn’t always have to mean that you’ll at some point inevitably find yourself hurting your partner. But you must be prepared to face a series of bumps before the relationship will work. As much as this drama can be worth the end result, it's one of the benefits of being single that you can look out for your own interests without worrying about how it will impact your partner.

Financial Relief

Some will argue that relationships don’t necessarily have to be about financial commitments. But one thing all men and women will agree on is that you’re likely to find yourself footing gift and date bills more often once you’re in a relationship than you were when you were single.

There will probably be a difference in your spending and, more often than not, the one benefiting the most is the one that may come off as a liability over the long haul.

It’s for this reason that it’s advisable to get into a relationship knowing very well that money will at some point turn out to be the source of tension. Staying single means that your money goes to your needs and wants, and yours alone.

You Get More Time to Spend with Your Friends

The time you spend with your beau can often cut into the time that you’d otherwise have spent with your friends. And there are bound to be times that you can’t leave your house to go hang out with your friends because your partner or spouse needs you.

Juggling between your commitments to your partner and your desire to see your friends can prove to be a tough task. So unless you’re preparing to drop some of your friends that you owe some level of loyalty, then you might be better off experiencing the benefits of being single.

No Obligations 

When you’re in a relationship, your partner will want you to remember things like birthdays, anniversaries, and the like. Single life has no demands like this. You don’t have to remember the day you became single, almost kissed someone, got too drunk, or anything else that you might hurt someone by not remembering if you were in a relationship. You are only answerable to yourself. You can play games, hang out with whoever you want or go on a drinking spree without worrying about your commitment to someone else.

But when you’re hitched, all your actions have to be calibrated to accommodate someone else’s feelings.

Singled Life Keeps You in Touch with Reality 

Remember that you’re in this world alone and solely responsible for almost each and every thing that transpires in your life.

Well, that’s one reality relationships try to make us escape.

The truth is that we’ll always have to face some of the life’s harshness alone. Our partners may help assuage the problems we face, but at the end of the day, what determines whether or not we’ll end up victorious is the individual effort we put into turning things around.

So regardless of the number of relationships we choose to have in a lifetime, there’ll come a time when we’ll have to live with ourselves, alone.