Butt plugs are the next big trend in adult toys. Although using a butt plug can sound intimidating, once you’ve learned how to use butt plugs correctly, many people find them to be stimulating enhancements to their sex lives. The anus is a highly erotic zone, and stimulating it before, during, or after sex can bring a new level of pleasure to men and women alike. Whether you want to enjoy a butt plug periodically during sex or want to rely on the filling sensation during masturbation you’ll find plenty of reasons to love playing with butt plugs. This guide which will help butt plug beginners gradually and safely adjust to anal penetration. Welcome to the world of backdoor pleasures!
Butt plugs are for everyone. Divided between male and female, there are four basic types of users. Single gay/bi, attached gay/bi, attached straight, single straight. Amongst females there was a lower variance of usage. At one end of the spectrum 12% of single straight women use butt plugs, on the other end 16% of single gay/bi women use them. This represents a 33 percent increase from straight to gay female butt plug user types. For men, decidedly different results. From a low of 19% for attached straight men, to a high of 34 percent of single gay/bi men, there was an increase of 79 percent from straight to gay men butt plug usage.
Prepping For Insertion
First things first, make sure you’ve gone to the bathroom before you try using a butt plug. Lots of coffee in the morning can help with this. While it is not essential, many people use an anal douche to make sure they are clean. Ideal for anal sex and anal play, anal douches eliminate filth from hard-to-reach areas inside the body. Since these devices come in a variety of shapes and for differing experience levels, they offer the ideal choice for cleaning the anus before sex. Fill the device with tepid water and then lubricate the douche and the anal cavity. Insert the douche into the anal cavity and squeeze the bulb to release the water into the rectum. Remove the douche and release the water inside your rectum. Continue the process until the water remains clear and free from any filth.
One size does not fit all bums, so get a set of butt plugs that vary in length and girth. Because butt plugs are designed to create a full feeling, you’ll find yourself in good company if you want to increase the size of your plugs. In fact, you’ll find sets of plugs created in increasing size that are designed specifically for this activity. Once you’ve grown accustomed to a smaller butt plug, you can work yourself up to a larger one and see if you can handle it for a few minutes. Of course, you shouldn’t do this without plenty of lube!
Unlike the vagina, the anus is not super-elastic or self-lubricating. Therefore, to enjoy anal sex, or a butt plug, you need to take it really slowly and use plenty of water-based lubricant. Don’t forget to have a bottle on hand and if your lube comes with a nice pump, it’s even handier! A thicker lube can help to ease insertion, while silicone-based lube lasts for hours on end without requiring as much application as water-based lube, which can become sticky as it dries. Many people find it easier to lubricate the anus instead of the plug so the plug doesn’t become slippery and difficult to insert. Once you have used enough lube, insert slowly!
Relax & Get In Position
You need to have relaxed muscles if you’re going to use a butt plug or have anal sex. There are a few ways that you can relax your butt muscles. First, make sure that the environment you’re in is warm and comfortable. If you are doing this with your partner, then ask if they will lick and suck around your anus. Once the toy is lubed, position the tip of the plug at the entrance of your sphincter. Slowly push the tip of the plug in and if it hurts, stop! You will feel tightness, stretching, and some discomfort depending on your personal physiology. That said, go slow and stop if you feel any real pain. A side by side ‘spoons’ position is a great way to start, especially if the woman bends and stretches her upper legs away from her body, as this automatically begins to open the external sphincter a little.
Since your butt is not used to having objects inserted into it, the sphincter muscles, which encircle the anal opening, will automatically clench when you try to penetrate it. Therefore, stay patient! After you make it to the bedroom, the fun of trial and error can finally begin! Butt plugs don’t just happen, and boom—she’s addicted. She might become a friend eventually, but that’s after extensive efforts to see what’s most comfortable. The key is to go slow, both with entry and removal. Sex and masturbation is supposed to be a fun, no-pressure activity where the goal is for everyone to get off and have a good time. Not every girl is going to become a pro at using butt plugs after the first time it goes in. If you want to keep using it, stay patient and know that it will feel better over time!
Slow & Steady
If you are doing this with a partner, have them work you up with your favorite form of foreplay and then delicately massage the outer rim of the opening. When you’re ready, have him slowly slip his finger in, only as far as is comfortable. Just stick with this for several sessions, until you are able to let his finger in with little resistance or tension. Then graduate to an in-between-sized sex toy specifically designed for up-the-butt action. Just remember to stay patient during this process. Your anus will not be used to having anything inserted so a lot of patience and lube will go a long way to a comfortable and enjoyable experience with a plug!
When it comes to experimenting, it’s important not to forget what you already know. It should be obvious that your biggest aid in solving the anal equation is putting emphasis on the clitoris; So when you’re busy in the backyard, you won’t want to handle that task alone. Invest in some toys that will help you in the process. Go for a sleek vibrator with a few speeds that are big enough to get work done but small enough to do its job discreetly. Experiment with new toys as well, such as anal beads, or anal plugs in various sizes. Anal beads will massage the prostate as the person wearing the beads moves. When they’re pulled out the sensation to the nerve endings on the opening to the anus will be, let’s just say, quite delightful.
Incorporate It Into Sex
Now that you’ve got the idea in place and the gadgets needed to play, it’s time to set the mood. Don’t just let him whisper, “Hey girl, I wanna put it in your butt.” If you’re worried that your partner might get a bit carried away while you have an anal plug in and are nervous that he’ll accidentally hurt you, try mounting them and sitting on top. That way you are in control of how deep and how fast, also your clitoris is exposed for simultaneous stimulation. If you’re feeling ambitious, sit on top of your partner facing them, and use the plug for a little double penetration.
Clean Up Properly
There are so many different materials that are being used in today’s toys that it can be hard to keep track of which ones are which. Fortunately, most products can be cleaned with nothing more than soap and hot water. If your toy is silicone, you can disinfect them in boiling water for five minutes, or in the top rack of your dishwasher. If your plug is a soft plastic or jelly rubber, we strongly recommend covering these products with a condom, even if you’re the only person using it, since you can’t get them 100 percent clean. Glass toys are either borosilicate glass, like glass bakeware, or sodalime glass, like windows and jars. In either case, you can simply wash with soap and water. Products designed specifically as toy cleaners are a great way to take care of your toys without using anti-bacterial soaps. These cleaners are gentle, rinse away easily, and can often be wiped off with a towel if you don’t have water handy. They make it really easy to be sure that your toys are ready to go!