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What's Sex Got to Do With It?

What does sex have to do with being in love? Want to find out?

By Sierra IPublished 6 years ago 3 min read
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I've heard so many people ask this question, and it drives me crazy; "What does sex have to do with being in love?" The two have become separate. I'll admit, just because the sex is fantastic, it doesn't mean that you're in love or the relationship is fantastic, that's true. However, how could we get to the point where we can seriously ask how the two fit together at all?

Sex is powerful stuff. Aside from feeling really, really good, it also helps to keep relationships spontaneous and healthy. It helps us communicate with our partners in a whole, new way. Sex, with someone you love, is unbiased, soul-pumping, and wonderful. Each time, you feel refreshed and new.

Sex brings you closer together, as one instead of individually. It's the greatest thing in the world to have someone support your personal and professional endeavors, (no matter how crazy they sound to everyone else you know) and someone to talk to when you feel lost. I'm not downplaying that. But, when you and that person connect sexually, you're communicating in a new way. You're using touches and facial expressions to convey what you are feeling and experiencing. And, losing yourself in that moment, you convey to your partner what you sometimes just can't convey with words like "I appreciate everything you do" and "I love you" and "you make me a better person," which never seem to sound right or enough. Words can't describe love, but emotionally connecting during an intimate moment can.

Sex can give you confidence before your afternoon meeting, to pitch your new idea for the company to your boss. Sex can break a daily routine right in half and excite your life, including your relationship. We've all gotten stuck in some kind of daily routine. Unfortunately for some, they are so routine that they miss out on all the little things. The now. The moments. Spontaneous sex can keep these relationships lively, be cherished, and remind them why they fell in love in the first place. People seem to lose sight of things like that in the face of routine.

Having sex with someone you love is like watching a flower bloom in fast-speed. It's almost like an explosion, but it's such a beautiful thing, that it's hard to get out of your mind. Even couples who have sex once a month can be happier and closer throwing just one extra, spontaneous night in there. Sex has a tendency to stay on the brain for a long while afterward. When those memories start to fade out, so does that "close" feeling you have after sex. Keeping that feeling in the back of your mind for as long as possible can greatly increase your happiness in your relationship.

We, as human beings, crave closeness. There's nothing closer than bare-skin contact with someone that you love. There is a reason that mothers are encouraged to hold their babies against the bare skin, just moments after being born. The reason they recommend this is for bonding purposes. Feeling your heartbeat against their chest, a newborn will calm down. Same with your partner. When you're in love, something as simple as laying your head on your partner's bare chest and listening to their heartbeat can significantly increase your mood after a bad day.

In short, I recommend making the time for each other, and not just talk time or date time. Make time to get close. Remember that there is always something new to learn about your partner, and we all want to know everything about our partners. Make time to communicate without words. Make time to really love each other in a way that only you two, unique people as individuals can.

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About the Creator

Sierra I

FT mom, writer, and 'doer'. Coffee obsessed and science-based, I thoroughly enjoy broadening people's horizons and mental processes through the written word.

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