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Watch the Porn, Bro

The angel and the devil on your shoulders will thank you.

By Niki BambiPublished 6 years ago 4 min read
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TMI? Never.

I was six years old the first time I masturbated. Sounds weird, right? A child knowing how to do something like that? Makes you think, was I raised in a weird home? Was there something wrong with me? Did I experience something I shouldn't have? The answer to all of that is no, definitely not. I grew up in a completely normal household, with four siblings, a dog, and parents who loved and still love each other to death. I went to regular public school, had birthday parties, barbecues all the time, went on vacations and shit, I was even a Girl Scout. I wasn't deprived of anything, and I had a regular, small group of friends. To be honest, I’m not sure when it all started. But, what I do know, is that my young fascination and love for pleasure has led me to be one of the not-so-many people who are comfortable watching and talking about porn, sex, and masturbation.

So many people that I’ve ever spoken to (friends, randoms at a bar, people at parties), have blushed and shut down after a sex joke is made or when someone says anything along the lines of sex or pleasure. In a way, they suddenly become very reserved. Listen, I understand everyone is different and some people are more comfortable than others with the subject, but I thoroughly believe that porn and sex and being comfortable with both is so important. Especially with females, in my experience, they don’t like to talk about porn or admit they watch it. For example, when I hang out with my small group of girlfriends, occasionally the topic of sex or masturbating will come up, and with the exception of myself and one other friend, everyone becomes bashful and suddenly just has to use the bathroom or finds another excuse to run and hide. But why? We all know we do it, and we all know we like it, so why not talk about it?

Now here is what I truly believe and my reasoning for it: porn is empowering, and masturbating isn’t embarrassing to do or talk about. I feel like most girls think porn will make them feel bad about themselves or think that is what every guy or girl wants them to be/act like. Maybe it’s because I started so young, or maybe somewhere in my own brain, I don’t feel that discomfort or awkwardness when it comes to porn. Why should anyone? Fellas, ladies (especially!), what is anyone going to say if you speak comfortably about porn? Or pleasuring yourself? Or buying a sex toy for yourself at the store? If anyone says anything to make you feel bad, they are clearly the ones who are not past their own discomfort. Porn should make you feel awesome about yourself. There are so many fetishes and different types of porn out there; big tits, fat asses, BBW, muscle head guys, guys with hairy chests. You want a porn that features a short Brazilian girl with dark hair? How about a busty redhead chick with a shit ton of tattoos? Or what about a bald, middle-aged guy with an uncircumcised penis? Every person is different, and every porn video is different. So, at the end of the day, YOU could be in a porn video, bitch! You are someone’s type! YOU are someone’s fetish! After you jerk yourself off, and you close your laptop or lock your phone, go look in the mirror. You can’t tell me you don’t look at yourself and think YOU are the hottest person you know. Porn is empowering and masturbating is you just knowing yourself and exactly what you like. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Sex is the ultimate form of pleasure and none of us should be ashamed of it. You are living in a type of fear if you are refraining from porn and touching yourself if the only thing stopping you is the idea that you are going to feel bad about yourself after. If anything, you can learn from porn. You might surf a few sites and discover things you didn’t even know you liked, or see a few moves and positions you want to try. Knowing what you like is a confident step in the right direction, people! Carry that same confidence that someone in a porno carries. Not all porn is everyone’s type, I know that. But even if you’re disgusted by, for example, a short Brazilian with dark hair, she doesn’t care, and she’s workin’ her ass for those who ARE into it.

So, look at yourself and know that you don’t have to be scared or ashamed of porn or masturbation or sex or even talking about it! Be open! You’ll be intimidating to those who are so closed off to the idea, and it’ll make them think about how confident you are.

Trust me on this one.

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Niki Bambi

Cool girl from New Jersey. I love people and I always appreciate a pretty sky. Love educating, love children, love the beach, love outdoors, love the sunshine, love the rain, love learning, and love my dog (duh).

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