Virginity, My Old Friend

Hard Truths and Fun Facts

I think there is some part of each of us that remembers the first time we had sex. It is a time that is burned into our memories for the rest of our lives… at least, for some. Whether your first time was with someone you loved, special or not, or maybe you don’t even remember the person’s name, we all at least remember the deed.

For me, I can remember it like it was yesterday even if it was nearly nine years ago at the young ripe age of nineteen. Honestly, I can’t believe it's even been that long ago, and now that I have done the counting on my fingers… speaking openly, I feel very whorish. But that is okay, because people make mistakes in their lives and my mistakes led me to where I am. Anyways, the guy was my at-the-time boyfriend who was ten years older than me. Truthfully, all I can remember from that night his him getting me drunk and having his way, so to speak. I really only remembered bits and pieces. But it was arranged and I was super nervous so I asked him to buy the booze. It was just horrible, but it was something I wanted to get overwith because everyone else I knew had already lost their virginity. I guess I was just the late bloomer of the neighborhood.

No matter how old you are when you lose your virginity, it is always interesting, to say the least. It isn’t like the movies and don't bother flipping through the Kama Sutra because it isn’t quite like that either. The best things in life surprise you and your first time is really no exception. Actually, according to virginity stats that have been taken… the average American will lose their virginity at the age of seventeen. Of course, not all do. There are some that do it sooner as well as those that wait a few years. Only five percent of men and women, between ages twenty-five and twenty-nine, are still virgins.

Whether you are an early bloomer or a late bloomer, there are 6 truths about losing your virginity that you should know:

  1. It’s really exciting: You can feel a bit nervous, a bit unsure, super turned on, or like your head might just explode from excitement.
  2. It tends to be awkward: It’ll be less likely to be awkward if your partner isn’t a virgin than if both of you were. It is awkward for the same reason that it is exciting and that is because it’s new.
  3. It’s not like in the movies: Nothing is the same as in the movies.
  4. It can make you feel closer to your partner.
  5. It could change your relationship: It’ll bring up a lot of questions.
  6. It could be uncomfortable if you a female: but it will get much better after a few practice rounds.

So, if you are still a virgin, then good job, and keep up the good work. There are some fun facts to help you transition.

Honestly, I wish that my first time had been more romantic or at least a little nicer than just two sweaty bodies colliding. Not that there is anything wrong with that, but being that it was the first time it should have been a little bit more special. I do feel like no one should feel pressured if they are a virgin to lose it. So, never let anyone pressure you into anything that you don't want to do or that you aren't ready for.

Alyssa Horn
Alyssa Horn

I am a broke college student that is pretty much alone in the world. I'm working on my bachelor's in psychology and then I am going to start my Master's as well as a degree in anthropology. plus I love to write.

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