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Jessie Colea day ago
Let's Talk About Sex
Sexual expression is an extremely personal thing. For example, I don’t mind people knowing I watch porn at all, but I would have to be extremely close to someone for them to know the type of porn I wa...
Tanisha Dagger7 days ago
Sexual Displeasure
Most people are obsessed with sex these days, whether that’s having sex with other people, having sex toys, being a Dominant or a Submissive. Most people have had the experience of sex in some kind of...
The Safeword Debate
(I'm channeling my inner Miranda Priestley for this piece. They don't make Tops like her anymore.) "I don't like using safewords, because I don't want to have control." "Why do I need a safeword when ...
Sex Rules for People in Long-Term Relationships
Having a long-term relationship isn't easy. You will see your partner in ugly positions, and have to deal with lots of drama involving daily life. As bad as the drama and occasionally unflattering asp...
Ramona Hargrove19 days ago
My First Threesome
Now threesomes might not be at the top of the list of things you want to experience before you eventually decide to settle down and pop that big ole finger prison on, but it's certainly always been on...
Kyrie Morrighan19 days ago
5 Reasons Why You Should Write Erotica
Why you should be writing erotica...
Tara Roberts21 days ago
Parents Can't Do That!
Let's face it, sex after kids can be described as a series of hit and miss moments. Many parents, whether they engage in vanilla or kinky sex, tend to find that their sex life after kids has altered, ...
How To Talk About Anal Sex With Your Partner
Talking about sex isn't always comfortable, particularly if you are worried about how your partner will take it. Anal sex, as well as other anal-related kinks, tends to be one of those topics that can...
Ashley Davisona month ago
You Want to Put What Where?!
Anal sex is way more scary than it sounds. I know, thinking about something up your asshole is kinda unsettling. It can also be one of the most pleasurable experiences you could ever have. If you are ...
Jus L'amorea month ago
Top Male Turnoffs for Women
Let me just start off by saying that my intentions when starting this piece were NOT to man-bash, but rather to inform the male public of what to absolutely avoid when partaking in a relationship. How...
Kyrie Morrighana month ago
Writing Better Sex Scenes
If you write romance or erotica, or want to start in the genre, sex scenes either are or will become a large part of your writing life. However, writing erotica is totally unlike any other type of wri...
Pros and Cons of Sex with an Uncircumcised Penis
Though it may be hard to believe for most Americans, the vast majority of men on Earth are uncircumcised. In the Middle East, circumcision is done for religious purposes — but in America, even Christi...
BDSM: Fifty Shades of Real
I am a 20+ year veteran of the BDSM community, what I referred to then as "The Scene." I actually prefer to call it "The Community", because that's what it was to me. I wouldn't know what they call it...
Tara Roberts2 months ago
Dominance in the Bedroom
So, you've been asked to take part in a Dominant-submissive role in the bedroom. A part of you is excited, while the other is overwhelmed by the concept. Never fear, it's not that complex. Most of a D...
Emily Adams2 months ago
Are You With Your Sexual Soul-mate?
Sex isn't always completely serious, romantic or "Fifty Shades" of intense. When you're with "the One," there's all kinds of emotions.
Rachel Newcombe2 months ago
Researching Our Way to Better Sex
When in doubt, grab a Cosmopolitan. No, I'm not talking about the sickeningly sweet pink drink. I'm talking about the magazine that will tell you "How to Make Your Sex Longer and Hotter" or "He Got Hi...
Oana Petrache2 months ago
Just Sex. Good Sex. Magic Sex.
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t have a problem with that. I think what people do in the bedroom and the position they do it in, it’s not really my business. My point is that, with a little consideration a...
Rachel Newcombe2 months ago
Talk Dirty to Me
If you're anything like me, you can feel yourself turning red when you have to say anything remotely intimate. You cast your eyes down and mumble something that could sound like something dirty and ho...