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Swinging Etiquette

A Brief Explanation of the Club Rules and My Little Rant

By Kink JournalsPublished 5 years ago 3 min read
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Today’s post has been inspired by my visit to one of my local clubs, this particular club I had never been to before, as I just hadn’t had time. The club facilities were lovely. However, for the first time we saw problems with the etiquette.

So standard swinging etiquette…

NO means NO... if someone says no, then you should accept that and move on.

Ask before touching... in the street would you want someone to come up and feel your boobs or your bum? NO... so why do some think it’s acceptable in a club.

Just because a person is naked doesn’t mean they want sex with you. People enjoy being naked, their attraction to you does not change, with or with out clothes.

Same theory… just because someone is chatty with you doesn’t necessarily mean they want to have sex with you. Also, if you allow somebody to touch your boobs, that does not give them permission to touch anything else, a lot of guys use it as a gateway to get more, girls if you don't want it, then say no.

Personal space… this is the big one from today. Same as with touching, you should ask before coming too close to a couple/group whilst they are playing, it is off-putting and generally not welcomed. If you ask and the couple says yes, then that is fine. But, the last thing most of us want is a bunch of men wanking literally over the top of us without asking. Most couples are happy for people to watch from a distance, but not right up close. If the couples were asked, then they probably wouldn’t mind so much.

Condoms... obviously this one is a personal choice and I can only advise. If playing with your regular partner/wife/husband then you are welcome to not use condoms, however, it is strongly advised to use condoms when playing with others because the last thing everybody needs is an STI loose in the swinging scene. The majority of club attendees will also get regular testing and honestly, I haven't heard of any problems since I've been on the scene, but we don't want any to start.

Smart clothes... most clubs like both men and women to be smartly dressed (no jeans or trainer) or lingerie. It’s not very welcoming if you just turn up in your work gear. Whilst a lot of women choose to dress in lingerie, it is not compulsory and women are allowed to just dress smartly if they desire. It should never be expected for a woman, or man, to dress down, it should always be their choice.

BDSM scenes—never interrupt a BDSM scene. Feel free to watch. However you should not ask to join in. The scene is normally specific between dom and sub. Also, is can be off-putting. Any questions for dom or sub should wait until the scene is over and until after the sub has received any aftercare required. Only then will they be happy to answer questions.

Flogging—quite often at my regular club we have the floggers out with various people, myself included. You should never walk too close to someone who is wheedling floggers. You may get hit by accident, also, the dominant may get frustrated and this may cloud their judgement as to the strength of their strikes. This could result in the submissive getting hurt. The same as with the BDSM scenes, you should not interrupt until the flogging is over. And NO, you may not have a go at using the floggers on the person tied up without their permission. Occasionally people are happy to let newbies get flogging practice, but some people are not, so you need to be aware of that. The same goes for whipping of any kind.

Sorry... I’ll stop ranting now 🙂

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Kink Journals

I’m 28, I initally started as a Sex, fetish and kink advice writer, but have recently started writing about other topics. Check out my blogs.

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