Sex with Friends Who Are Strippers—Disappointing Sex

I've been to my share of strip clubs and stripper parties, particularly when I was in my late 20s, into my early 30s. The excitement, and the willingness to spend lots of money at a strip club is something that wore off five to six years ago.

Over the course of several years of going to strip clubs, my friends and I befriended several strippers in the Baltimore and D.C. area. As time passed, some of those friendships turned into casual sexual relationships.

The first of these sexual encounters was with a friend of mine, I'll call "Britney." Britney is a beautiful African American woman, about 5'10," with the most perfectly shaped C-cup sized breasts, and abs that you could bounce quarters off of. Of course, an ass, to boot, as well. We had sex at a mutual friend's party. Grabbing me by the collar and into a backroom, she ripped my pants off and started performing fellatio. Yanking my penis violently, it was initially more pain than pleasure. I became hard soon after, and the condom was snapped on. I slowly inserted my penis into her vagina as she sat on my legs facing me. Instead of taking things slow, so both of us could enjoy the experience, she violently jerked back and forth and before I knew it, I came.

Britney enjoyed the experience, but I didn't get to enjoy it as much as I expected to, it was such a disappointing experience. My encounters with "Daisy" and "Lisa" were a similar experience. My sexual encounters with "Britney," "Daisy," and "Lisa" were casual encounters with women I was friends with who happened to be strippers. Is it fair to generalize an entire group of people based on three sexual encounters? Of course not. However, it would be disingenuous if I were to not express my disappointment. Through this experience, I learned that while fantasies are great, at the end of the day you're having sex with a human being, a human being that has unique abilities, limitations, and comfort levels, all three of which need to be respected.

As human beings, we are curious about exploring acts that are considered taboo by larger society. Unless it's for a friend's birthday or bachelor/bachelorette party, my days of going to strip clubs are over. I continue to seek sex with as many different types of women as possible. As I'm writing this, it's possible that when I had sex with "Britney," "Daisy," and "Lisa," my focus was more on the act of fucking as oppose being sensual and making a connection, the way you typically do when you make love to someone you love, as oppose to "fucking" someone you're purely sexually attracted to.

Do people in love sometimes just "fuck," as oppose to "make love"? Of course! However, I believe that the generalization is relevant to making the distinction I'm intending to point out.

So, I'm sure you're asking, what's happened with "Britney," "Daisy," and "Lisa?" Well, they all decided that they'd had their share of fun and all settled down and got married. They stopped stripping, and now all of them hold "professional" jobs today. "Britney" is a doctor, "Daisy" is a lawyer, and "Lisa" is a stockbroker.

Fantasies can be great, and they can be disappointing. I don't have any regrets, but will always carry with me some of these wild memories.

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