Sex Tips for a Long Term Relationship

When you're in a long term relationship, keeping sex interesting is a big deal. Nobody wants to have boring sex. Sex is a way to connect with your partner and give one another mutual pleasure. If you aren't bonding in your relationship it will slowly start to deteriorate. Sex is supposed to bring couples together, not tear them apart. Here are some sex tips for a long term relationship.

 Don't Forget Foreplay

When in a long term relationship, you know when the other person wants to have sex and what they like. That usually leads to skipping foreplay and going right to sex. However, doing this makes sex faster and less enjoyable. Because both partners aren't as "turned on" as they should be, sex seems less appealing. This also leads to bad orgasms (ok, maybe not bad, but not-as-good orgasms). Skipping foreplay can also give your partner the impression that you just want to get the sex over and done with. This may be a basic tip, but foreplay can play an essential part of sex in a long term relationship.

Try Different Positions 

Another mistake many couples make is making the same position over and over again. They know it works and they know they like it so they stick to it. This is an awful thing to do. If you are repeating the same position over and over again it will get boring and eventually become less enjoyable. There are hundreds of positions to try. If you aren't sure where to start, you can buy a book of sex positions. This will help you find new things to try, and perusing the book for what to try next can in and of itself contribute to foreplay.

Buy Lingerie 

Items like lingerie bring out different sides of people. A provocative outfit can lead to better foreplay and hotter, more intense sex. It can change the mood and lead to better orgasms. More than anything, it increases the confidence of both parties. Women feel sexier wearing something that is designed to make them feel sexy, and men feel confident knowing their partner went out of her way to dress especially for them.

Try New Places 

This one is definitely on the risky side. But that is the reason why it works so well. There are a few things to be careful of.

1. Don't do it near a school or playground.
2. If you're going to do it during the day, you better be hidden well.
3. Always bring a blanket. There are a lot of germs in different places you don't want on all parts of your body.

This is my favorite way to keep sex interesting. It creates so many emotions, and sex is so much more amazing.

Role Play

This is something a lot of couples don't think to try. Role play can help both of you play out your fantasies. It can also help you both find new things that turn you on. Costumes and acting build the intensity of sex. It isn't for everyone, but for a long term couple whose sex is getting boring, it's definitely worth trying.

 Bondage 

A lot of people think that this can be scary and painful and it can be if that's what you want it to be, but if you and your partner work together it can make sex that much better. Mixing pleasure with other emotions like fear and pain enhances orgasms and makes sex more exciting. Bondage is also exciting because it can go both ways. Each partner has the chance to be dominant and submissive, and you can decide what you like best based on what turns each of you on most.

Get Sex Toys 

There are many different toys you can use to spice up your sex life. They aren't hard to buy, either. You can buy them online, or you can go into a store together to pick something out, which can be a sexual experience in and of itself. Often you will find a toy you didn't know existed but that you both love. Toys add variety to the same old position.

Play Sex Games

This is something that can spice up your sex life very quickly. There are so many games available, from dice games that tell you what to do to which body parts to card games with "consequences" for losing. Games can help you try things you wouldn't have if you'd been left to your own devices. Who knows, maybe one of you will really love what you end up trying.

Add Another Person

Many couples bring in a third person to reinvigorate their sex life. I have not tried this myself, but I have heard that it is a great thing to do when sex is getting boring. Some look for thirds on Tinder or dating apps, others ask a friend. A third person provides a new perspective. If they try something your partner hasn't done, you know what to ask for next time around. Furthermore, the mix of slight jealousy and voyeurism into your traditional sex routine can add excitement to your escapades.

Change Your Schedule

You should never have sex at the same time, every time. Getting into a pattern will always make sex more boring. It should be a spontaneous act, and knowing that if you have sex it will start at 9:00 PM is about the farthest you can get from spontaneity. Try seducing your partner early in the morning, or while they're home for lunch.

Sex in a Different State of Mind

There are so many ways to have sex but if you're with a partner you know and trust, altering your state of mind can make it that much better regardless of how you're having sex. Orgasms can be felt more intensely under the influence of marijuana, and alcohol can lower our inhibitions and make us less self conscious. You might be willing to try new things you wouldn't have if you were sober.

Don't Give Up

Most importantly, never stop trying different things. There are so many ways to have sex and so many places to do it. When you are worried about your sex life, the last thing to do is stop trying. This will keep you from trying the many things out there that could preserve your relationship. You need to work together on sex tips for a long term relationship. One person cannot do all the work.