Sex Games for Couples

For the first several years of marriage, sex was probably great between you and your significant other. You banged every which way, experiencing orgasm after orgasm all over the place. During the past few years, you might not have had difficulty sustaining sexual interest, but eventually it will begin to go downhill.

After a decade plus of sleeping next to, and with, the same person in the same bed every night, you might not particularly feel like going at it like you once did. At this stage in a relationship, a simple and very effective remedy is available. You jump into the hay with someone other than your partner, who also takes on somebody besides you. The problem, however, is that sex outside of a relationship, even when it's openly discussed, is not practical for many couples. It may sound great, but often ends up being too much of a disruption, promoting jealousy that worsens the relationship in ways well beyond the sexual boredom you were trying to fix.

So, how do you maintain sexual interest in a marriage or a long-term relationship without resorting to extra-marital sex?

The key here is to make sex fun, and a great way to do that is to try some sex games for couples. You might think that sex is always fun, or otherwise you wouldn't be doing it. But for many people, sex gets to be too serious–tied up with love, emotion, and other aspects in the marriage or relationship. It can also reach the point where sex is overblown; where it has to be the perfect romantic event, or end with the perfect orgasm every time. This is not to say that sex shouldn't be serious, loving, romantic, and spectacular. It's just that if you expect it to be all those things every time, it won't be, and disappointment is bound to result. As with all things, sex should have variety. One way to give it variety is to have fun–uninhibited, hilarious, silly, free-for-all fun.

Pillow fight, not pillow talk.

Now, you might be wondering what a pillow fight has to do with sex. Perhaps you think you're a little old for such an adolescent activity. Indeed, feeling young and free is precisely the point of a couples' sex game. It is out of the ordinary and involves your whole body. Clear away your bedside lamps and other breakable items, take off all your clothes, gather up a selection of pillows, and you're ready to start. Pick up a pillow and throw it at your partner. They, of course, will promptly toss one back. After some soft exchanges, you can hurl the pillows at each other, no holds barred. Aim for their face. When they cower and turn to avoid the impact, let them have it in the ass. A hint of sexual torment mixed into the playfulness is exactly what you're going for. When a pillow hurtles toward you, dive off the bed for cover and send a pillow back before they can rearm. After 10 or 15 minutes, pounce on them with a flying tackle onto the bed. You might discover you don't want to let them up, and that they don't want to get up. You will be too busy romping and having a ball to keep score. Everybody wins in this sex game.

A pillow fight can do a lot for you as a couple. Perhaps most importantly, it gets the blood flowing. If you've been sitting down at work all day, you're not going to want to do much moving around once you get to bed; needless to say, sex doesn't work if you don't feel like moving. A pillow fight gets you worked up and gives both of you a chance to see each other's naked body in varied, and probably erotically stimulating, positions. In addition, spending some time horsing around will help adjust for some of the discrepancy between men's and women's timing. Men are usually ready for intercourse sooner than women, who need a little extra foreplay and preparation. Extending the foreplay with some bedroom frolicking can give the woman's body an opportunity to catch up.

Throw the dog a boner.

Imagination is the only limitation in having fun with sex. Ever tried strip poker with a group? Although the couples don't switch partners for sex itself, they are turned on by playing sex games all together; watching each other strip before splitting up to continue the fun in their respective beds.

Other couples like to pretend they are animals. Sometimes they would be bears and roll around in furry coverings. Other times they would be lion cubs and pounce on each other. Their favorite animals to imitate are dogs, crawling around each other, sniffing at each other's assholes.

Even more, others prefer to act out characters in stories and movies. She is Sleeping Beauty and he is the handsome Prince. To "awaken' her, he has to kiss her, but not on the lips.

The early bird catches the orgasm.

Another great way to spice up sexy-time is couples' masturbation. The game rules state that, once they start, one parter can masturbate the other, and he/she can masturbate themselves, but the other can't do anything at all; they are not to touch themselves nor their partner. The one doing the work can take as long as they want, but they have to make sure their partner comes before they come. Pleasure your partner and give yourself a little delayed gratification! You can also wrestle when they want to spice up your sex life. Cover your bodies with a scented and flavored oil, and if one person is much stronger than the other, tie one arm behind your partner's back to even up the match. Blast some loud rock music, and don't take yourselves too seriously. Mostly, enjoy rubbing the oil on each other's bodies and rolling around before getting down to the deed.

While sex is, and should be serious, it is equally important for it to be humorous, lighthearted, boisterous, and just plain fun as well. Try some of these sex games for couples to add a little fun to your routine.