Minors In Kink

I am not sure if I will lose or gain readers by saying this, but I will never support minors in the BDSM or kink world. Hell, a lot of the times I don't think that anyone under 20 should be in the lifestyle. Most teenagers only think of themselves and in reality, when you are a Dom or sub you can't do that. There are also times when people who are 18+ can't think of anything but themselves. Plus, in most states in America, all sex related activities you have to be at least 18 to be involved in the act. So, do you know what that means? If you are 17 or younger people can go to jail for doing sex acts to you or with you, and a lot of kink acts are sexual in nature. BDSM on some formats have been described as a relationship between two people who are emotionally, mentally and sexually mature, so adults basically. Sorry y'all, kink is not for kids.

Also kink and BDSM are mind fucks, and a lot of teenagers don't have the maturity to handle it. I know some mature teenagers but it's just too much. There are even times that people my age can't handle it. There was a woman who was at Frolicon 2016 that had a total meltdown because it was too much, she looked like she was in her 20s. So that should tell you something. It's not a game or a trend; to the teenagers it maybe a trend.

In a lot of situations, a Dom needs to be at an extremely high maturity level. You are basically, in some sense, in charge of another human being at least in a scene if not 24/7. You are also using tools on someone else, some of them can leave marks. Floggers, paddles, ropes, and other tools can hurt when in untrained hands. I once was hurt by a butt plug, thankfully it wasn't too serious. There's a lot of power in your hands and a lot of chances for something to go wrong.

What if you get pregnant? You should be able to have a chance to go to college and get a good job and not be stuck flipping burgers because you had a baby young. It's the truth, are you really ready to have a baby? And I mean maturity wise, emotionally, physically, and financially.

Plus, there's a lot of fake Doms out there. They can hurt you and fuck you up, not in the good way. It can take a long time to find a real Dom and teenagers may not be patient enough to do the search for the right partner. They may just settle and settling in the lifestyle isn't a good thing.

Maturity is so important. Sadly, there are many of age people in the lifestyle who are not mature. Being young and immature is to be expected but immature isn't a good thing when it comes to the lifestyle. This lifestyle can be horrible and amazing at the same time. It can grow you up or mess you up. I actually lost friends because of maturity issues in this lifestyle. I also lost friends in this lifestyle because I am still learning myself. So people in this lifestyle are sometimes flakes. I don't want teenagers to be hurt by these people.

Also in this lifestyle you're expected to take criticism and to learn and younger people are not known to really be to keen on either idea. Some could be but I have not met many who are wanting to be told that they are wrong. I have also not met many that want to learn the right way to do things. Not wanting to learn or take criticism makes you a terrible Dom or sub.

Adults have been raped, sexually assaulted, killed, stalked, and abused doing this lifestyle. I do not want anyone going through that but especially not teenagers. So I'm saying just wait till you are older to do this, I'm trying to save you guys from this. I know people can be kinky and young but wait. Yes you can discover this side of yourself young, but wait. Don't message me saying you are mature for your age or that it's not illegal where you are, it's not just about those things it's about so much more.