Info for the Guys

Okay, guys, us women want you to understand that during foreplay we enjoy when you use your fingers to please us. It feels good, it really does. Except when you decide to pound our poor vagina at lightening speed.

Get in there, add an extra finger if we give you the idea that is what we want, but DO NOT pound us. All the nerves are right there at the opening. Stretching the opening sends shivers up our spine.

Then when you go deep and search for that rough patch and rub it gently, it is very possible to send us into convulsions. That is the mythical G-spot. That small patch of roughness deep inside. It feels so different from the rest of the tender flesh inside that you cannot miss it. Pay attention to that area, gently. Being rough to that small pleasure dome hurts. Rotating your fingers, some like clockwise, others counter-clockwise, you will know which she likes better by the noises and movements she makes. Slowly and gently rubbing that spot will make her have an orgasm she didn't know was possible! It is a different type of orgasm than she is used to.

Stimulating the clitoris and the G-spot create two totally different feelings and sensations. You can make her fall over the edge by just paying attention to one or the other. When they are both tended to at the same time creates a whole different type of orgasm for your partner. It all seems so technical. Men are taught about an orgasm, not the many different types a woman can have. When you educate yourself on them all, you will be the talk of all the women that come into contact with you.

Just slow down! You can pound us with your penis. Use your fingers to tease us, make us desire you more than you've ever been wanted.

You could even start with the knuckle of your middle finger to tease those nerves at the opening of our vagina. Not jamming it in. Just push in a little and then make a circular motion, touching each nerve and setting them on fire. Then go for the full finger. One at first. As we create more lubrication, add another. Some women even like three or four. You may meet a woman who likes to be fisted, but that is a whole nother topic. The stretching of the opening feels electric. Pay special attention to that for a moment longer. Don’t rush. We have nothing but time. Well, in most situations.

There are times when we have been thinking, daydreaming, exciting ourselves for hours reminiscing about the last time that we attack when you come near. Please remember that this is not the case in eight out of ten of the sexual encounters you will have with the same woman. WE need to be enticed, shown again what it is you can do to us. This is where you make her fall for you all over again. She will spend her days having flashes of the way you ignite her desires, smiling and staring into space, watching the clock until she can get back to you.

Don’t ever forget about your tongue! We will go over that in another column soon. The way you work your tongue and fingers together can make her forget her name.

One thing I must add! Do not, and I repeat DO NOT use your index finger! It feels odd and just wrong! Your middle and ring finger are the perfect combo to make our would turn upside down!

Gentle thrusting is cool. We do enjoy that. The pounding, NO.

This is a time to rev up your partner's motor, so start slow and work up to the part where she pulls you on top of her because she needs your penis, she wants it, and she wants NOW, hard and fast!

Rushing things is not the proper way to get your girl ready to rock! And honestly, you finger bang a girl too hard, and without any rhythm, you probably won't be asked to do it or her again.

Yes, there are times where we are wet and ready for you to just take us, but please, please take the time to get us going. Some days we really need it.

We appreciate your intentions. Some women are too afraid to take your hand and guide you, show you what she really wants you to do. Talk! Pay attention to her moans, movements and facial expressions. They will tell you what she likes and what she is so not into. It is difficult for a woman to speak when she is moaning. Talk to her. The tone of her moans will tell you everything you want or need to know.

All of these observations are from my own experiences and those of women who have confided in me. Not every woman is the same. Make her tell you what she likes. Being open in the bedroom can make for the best sex of your life!!

If you try my methods, you will give her an orgasm that will have her laughing and crying at the same time because what she just experienced had so many emotions going at once she cannot determine which she needs to express.

Happy sex to all!