I’m Just Not in the Mood Right Now

At times when we are in a relationship, we may enter a phase where our partner has a lower sexual appetite than we do. If you enter one of those phases, it may be good to have an idea of what could be causing the “I’m just not in the mood right now,” as well as having solutions to experiment with.

The cause of the problem could very well be due to external factors such as stress or worries about different things. So first and foremost you should look into this. However, in this post, I will focus on factors closer to the relationship. It’s actually not uncommon that the lack of mood has its foundation in the relationship itself. Among other things, it’s common for women to punish men for different behaviors by avoiding sex. After cleaning, doing dishes, taking care of the children, and not even receiving an appreciative kiss, women may say that they don’t feel like it.

Sex, for women, is connected to their general condition. They often need to feel good to even take sex into account. Thus, if your woman is not in the mood, you should look at it as an alarm clock for reviewing the non-sexual parts of the relationship.

Once you have done this and concluded that your relationship is in good shape, it’s time to have a closer look at the sex life. If you want to have more sex than your partner, it’s not unreasonable to assume that you actually also enjoy it more than her. And even if that’s not the case, it definitely won’t hurt to make her enjoy it even more. So how do you do that? Well, just as any other skill, sex skills are not exactly something you are born with. Instead being skilled at sex is something you can learn.

For a lot of women, the standard in and out doesn’t quite cut it. So you should definitely learn how to make use of both your fingers and mouth. And if you only last around 6 minutes as a majority of guys, you should look into different ways of extending the pleasure and lasting longer in bed. Most woman actually requires at least 20 minutes of stimulation to reach the pinnacle.

By learning to become really good in bed, you will bring your partner to new heights of sexual pleasure. That she then is less horny or has a lower sexual appetite than you will not be very likely. If, however, against all odds this would happen, you should not try to push her to sex. The pressure that this creates will only have the opposite effect, and can even lead to the total death of her sexual appetite for you.

It’s also common to describe men’s and women’s sex drives in terms of responsive lust and spontaneous lust, as well as aggressive and receptive sex drive.

The meaning of spontaneous lust is that one easily becomes horny without any special cause. While responsive lust means that one usually needs some kind of sexual initiation; for example, being kissed before becoming horny. Often, female desire is more consistent with the definition of responsive lust, while men are more guided by spontaneous lust. However, of course, this is not applicable for everyone as we all are different.

Receptive sex drive, which can be described as passive but interested, also often fits more into the female sex drive. Hence, if your woman does not initiate sex, this does not necessarily mean that she doesn’t want sex. That you as a man initiates sex is not strange but rather manly, and your manly traits are something you want to cultivate. The first time you had sex with your partner and seduced her, it was most likely you who initiated. Continue with this. Women like it when men initiate.