Human Nature

Why hide it? It is human nature for the eyes to wander and the mind to dream. When we are single we check every one out, we have fun and we experiment. We go through what people call the college years. Even when we are in relationships we do the same, let’s not kid ourselves. Being married, people think that it puts an end to any kind of heart racing excitement and experimenting, but it doesn’t have to.

My husband and I are both very open minded people and know that we will always check other people out no matter what. It is human nature for people to want and to need and to lust after certain feelings. Putting a harness on those feelings while being in any kind of relationship I think just hurts it. They will always find a way to do it; if you are open to it then I think that it makes the relationship stronger. I know my husband checks out other women and he knows that I check out other men (and women) and instead of hiding it we share it. We share what we like about that persons look and even what we would do to them!

We can’t hide our sexual feelings for people and acts. We will always experience them and being able to share those gut clenching, heart racing feelings, for me feels even better. I love being able to express how I feel and what I want with a person and deepening that connection and having that returned as well. Each person has a history and has stories from their past and it has shaped them to be the people they are now, (sexually speaking). I know that my husband has a past of having many sexual partners where I can count on one hand the partners I have had. I don’t look at him any differently for his past but I accept that and it helped make him the perfect lover that he is today. He also understands that since I got married at a young age and jumped into a relationship with him right after leaving another, that my sexual experiences have been limited. My college experimentation years are ones that I did not get to have. He gave me the opportunity to be alone and try it out, but I choose to experiment those years with him. Which has made our relationship that much stronger.

I know that there are people who will not think the same as I do and might find the idea of looking at other people with their sexual eye as “cheating,” but I also know that there are people who just might think the same and are scared to express it. You never know unless you try. Do not be afraid you diving in to your sexual realm and expressing it. Those feelings are what keep us feeling alive and young. I think that the longer we hide them and suppress them the more it hurts us in ways we may not yet realize. We just might have to wait until we find that person that we can full trust and truly open up with.

We talk about what we have done and what we want to do and experience. Either we talk, think or do what we want to. One way or another it will get done. It’s all about pleasure my friends. Embrace that pleasure and have fun with it.

Ending Thoughts:

• Ask, talk and experiment.
• Learn and be open.
• Your needs and what you want should always come first.