How to Orgasm from Anal Sex

Welcome to the world of anal sex! If you're reading this, you're probably one of two types of people. One, you've never tried anal (because HELLO, EXIT NOT ENTRANCE) but you can't help but be curious about it. Or two, you partake in anal sex with your partner, but you can't seem to reach your climax. Fear not my friends, you are not alone! Learning how to orgasm from anal sex is about 70% mental and 30% physical. Master one and the other will follow.

Before you even decide whether trying anal sex is right for you or not, let's lay down some facts. For those who think it's unnatural or could never feel good, here's a little lesson. The anus and rectum are part of your sexual anatomy and how you stimulate them affects the genitals. The nerve endings are connected. This is true for men, and it is true for women. So forget the idea that it can't possibly feel good because science says different. Hooray science! Now that you've made it over that hurdle, its time to tackle to other obstacles that sometimes get in the way of orgasms from anal sex.

Start Slow and Steady

Let's start off with the most important rule to follow if you're trying to orgasm from anal sex. You HAVE to start slow. Whether it's your first time or your hundredth, starting slow will end up benefiting you and your partner. If you're on the giving end, you don't want to go to fast because, one, you could hurt your partner, and two, you don't want to climax too quickly. This is especially true for heterosexual couples. Sorry dude, I don't care how long you can normally last, when you go from regular vaginal sex to anal, the difference in tightness will (pleasantly) surprise you. If you're on the receiving end, going slow is just as important. If you try to shove it in there too quickly you wont be able to relax and actually enjoy yourself. So again, first, and foremost, go slow.

Have Trust in Your Partner

Trusting your partner has more to do with achieving orgasm than you might think. Anal sex specifically takes a large amount of trust because you're putting yourself in an extremely vulnerable position. Let's be blunt here. They are literally putting something in where you poop out of, so you can't feel self conscious or insecure, or it will ever work. It's only when your mind is free to concentrate on the actual pleasure your body is feeling that you can orgasm from anal sex. Plus, they could really hurt you in this position, so not only do you have to feel comfortable, you have to feel safe. Trust is key.

Lube is Your Friend

Nature's (or KY's) miracle! When it comes to anal sex, there is no such thing as too much lube. If I had to guess the number one concern with trying anal sex, it would be the fear of being uncomfortable. I'm talking about physical discomfort or pain, here. Unlike vaginal sex, anal doesn't provide its own form of lubrication. Image trying to have vaginal sex when you're dry as the dessert. That shit would HURT. So it only makes sense that the same rule should follow for anal. Using lube will eliminate most of the physical discomfort, allow for ou to let go of the mental fear.

Walk Before You Run

You've heard of 'crawl before you walk, walk before you run', right? Well this is the same concept. Before you go full blown anal sex, try starting out small. First maybe a pinky, then 2 fingers, or maybe even trying a butt plug or other toys. It's not so much that you want to be all loosey goosey, but more that it helps to become acclimated to having a foreign object in that part of your body. This is also a great place to start when it comes to anal-based orgasms. Adding in simple, noninvasive anal play during oral sex, or even vaginal penetration, will help you become a lot more comfortable with the idea of how good it feels. Helping your lady, or man, achieve orgasm this way will lead seamlessly into orgasms from anal sex. Work your way up.

Keep the Communication Honest

This goes hand and hand with trusting your partner. Most couples undervalue communication during sex, and anal sex is no different. You have to be able to communicate where your at. Simple phrases like "slow down" or "a little to the left" can take your experience from cringe-worthy to orgasm inducing. No one is a mind reader, you have to tell each other what you're thinking. If something feels really good, say so! Same goes for if it DOESN'T feel good. Communication = orgasms. Simple as that.

Make It the Final Act

Anal should wrap up your sex session for multiple reasons. For one, you're the most 'warmed up' so to speak. You've reached peak wetness, and maybe you've even already had one orgasm already. You're aroused, your relaxed and you're ready. An orgasm from anal sex is the perfect final act to a greats sex session.

Try Oral-Anal Sex First

Probably one of the most underrated sex acts, oral-anal play is another great way to work you way up to anal penetration. Next time your giving, or receiving oral sex, don't neglect the booty people. Not only is it pleasurable, but again, it makes you more comfortable with adding anal play into your regular sex routine. This goes without saying, but with this act in particular, cleanliness is close to godliness. Try a dental dam to be on the extra safe side. As the rap song so eloquently says, "eat the booty like groceries". Seriously, don't knock it until you've tried it.

Dual Stimulation is Fool Proof

Don't ignore the clitoris! Dual stimulation is the fastest and most effective way to orgasm from anal sex. The sensation from anal sex is intense, no doubt, but for women it is sometimes almost too intense. By adding in clitoral stimulation not only are you increasing pleasure, but your also increasing comfort. An clitoral orgasm is easier to achieve and much more common. Giving a woman that familiar feeling will allow her to enjoy the act of anal sex more, until she is finally able to climax just from anal stimulation alone.

Get on Top

Traditionally when you think of anal sex, you think of the doggy style position. This is where a lot of couples make a mistake. By putting the 'receiver' on top, you allow them to control the pace, and depth. I think this is particularly important because it also balances out power. In a position that sometimes can be viewed as demoralizing, this gives the receiver some power back. Sure, your putting yourself in a vulnerable position, but you're the one in control and you get to dictate what happens next. If your partner wants to try anal sex is feeling concerned, consider this option.

Have Fun!

That's what this is all about anyway, right? Relax and enjoy yourself. In my not-so humble opinion, sex shouldn't be taken so seriously. Stop worrying about what you look like, or if you're going to accidentally poop on your partner (you're not, trust me), and enjoy yourself. If it's not fun, than you probably shouldn't be doing it. Open your mind to just feeling good, and you probably will.