How to Become a Male Porn Star

Every. Single. Day. At least one guy will tweet me asking, "How do I get into porn?" The short answer is, "You don’t." But for those of you that actually might have the drive, perseverance, and sheer talent to be a male porn star, Imma break it down for you.

First and foremost is the hard truth for you boys—this is probably the only industry in the WORLD where it is ten times harder for men to get involved than it is for women. If you are a semi-decent looking female of any shape, size, or race—as long as you are willing to do the levels—you’ll pretty much get hired by someone. In general, men get hired through one of the following:

• You have a girlfriend or friend with benefits that is already in the industry. He or she is willing to vouch for you and work with you for companies to prove that you are a worthwhile performer.Directors are always scared of booking brand new male talent. If you turn up and your dick resembles a flump marshmallow no matter how long your screen partner desperately tries to coax a hard-on out of you, then the director is fucked. Everyone still needs to get paid—location, female talent, camera crew, makeup artists. Everyone except you. The porn industry may be big, but word travels like wildfire. You won’t be booked again. To be fair, this is a generalization. (I have seen tons of guys that cannot keep it up with ANY girl, but they work for $100 and times are hard. They get booked over the more expensive but more talented performers, and the companies are left with an unusable—but cheap—scene).
• You find a director that will offer you scenes to start you out, but won’t pay you. I know a few directors that do this—it actually happened in one of my scenes. A friend desperately wanted to work for said director, but said director wasn’t sure. I suggested giving him a scene as a casting rather than paying him. If he liked the talent, then he could rehire the guy for paid work.
• You get in with a small team of amateurs that possibly have a website/small-scale production company. You learn the ropes with them, you collect enough experience by doing scenes/camera work for them that enough girls in the industry know your name. If the girls are talking about you, then the directors soon will be too.
• You start your own website, maybe a POV—even a clip store. You film your own content and pay the girls. There are enough girls out there willing to work for the smaller sites as long as they are getting paid. You may not get the mega stars, but you will build up your name in the industry.

Still Wanna Pursue Porn?

So you’ve taken note of the above, and you still think you want to go ahead and be the next Rocco Siffredi, Nacho Vidal, or Manuel Ferrera. You have a huge dick. Guess what? No one cares. You have a gigantic penis that would put Danny D to shame—good for you, buddy. That foot-long schlong is of no use to anyone if it can’t get or stay hard. I cannot tell you how many times I have read comments from people saying things like "I have a 12-inch dick. I would fuck you better than all these porn dudes." Porn really has nothing to do with how well you would fuck a girl if you took her back to your bachelor pad after a night out on the town. It has everything to do with stamina, concentration, and control.

The whole point of porn is to stimulate the viewer, so if a dude watches one of my scenes and wants to fuck me, I’ve done my job. Meanwhile, the reality is completely different.

So you’ve managed to wriggle your way in. It’s your first day on set. Your first scene. You hope and pray you’re working with Samantha Bentley, Mia Malkova, Misha Cross, Katrina Jade… etc. The likelihood of you working with a big name on your first scene is next to nothing. But she’s cute, her butt is awesome, and she has blow job lips. That’s why you wanted to do porn, right? So you can tell your friends you get paid to bang hot girls?

Some girls are accommodating to the male talent. I always make sure to go over and introduce myself if I am working with someone new. I mean, we are about to have sex, so it's nice to be on a first name basis. However, there are also days when I am stressed out, I’m tired, I’m on my period, and I’m having problems in my personal life. I’m trying to sort out my bills, my dog sitter, and my agent asking me which dates I’m free for something I really don’t want to do. On those days I may be less accommodating. I have seen girls completely blank their on-screen partner up until the second the director calls "action." This is a job—not a date. If your scene partner is being a brat, you need to switch off, get hard, do the scene, and produce a cum shot without the girl putting you off.

On a side note, one thing that used to land guys immediately on my "no" list is overconfidence and overfamiliarity. We may be working together, but don’t hit me up afterwards asking to go for drinks, don’t be all over me when I’m trying to get ready, and don’t ask for a selfie. The reason guys like Rocco and Manuel are as successful as they are—other than being incredible performers—is that they respect the girls. They know it’s a job, they don’t smother the talent, they do the scene, and that's the end of it. Job done.

The Reality of Scenes and Features

Let's move on to the actual scene. You’ve said your "Hello's" and you’ve taken my advice to avoid becoming a gross weirdo. You’re respectful and chilled. It’s time to go. Smaller companies that are more on the amateur side will literally just shoot sex and a few pictures. This will take a few hours. Your bigger but not massive companies like Killergram and Cumlouder will shoot the girl's pictures, then the sex stills, and then the scene. This takes a little longer. All companies are different, but for the sake of argument, let's say you want to be a huge star and do movies that win AVN awards for the likes of Evil Angel, Jules Jordan, Harmony, Wicked, or New Sensations. These companies require you to be on set for the entire day, anywhere between eight and 20 hours (Yep, I’ve done 20-hour days on set).

Features require you do a lot of additional acting. Sometimes you will be booked for an extra day just for the acting, but nine times out of ten, directors will do it all in one day so they can save money. This means that you will already have been on set for hours before the sex. You’re FINALLY ready to fuck. You need to walk on set, get yourself hard (unless your scene partner is feeling generous), shoot for an unrealistic amount of time in positions that you would never do in your personal life, baring in mind AT ALL TIMES that the camera needs to see your penis entering the vagina.

You’re in a room full of bored-looking dudes with a camera or two shoved in your face and between your legs. A boom hovers over head. You manage to get through the scene—an hour of awkward, uncomfortable sex—and you’ve made it look good. Now the director needs a cum shot. This girl needs a facial, and you better produce a healthy load in around 60 seconds.

I have been in situations where the guy just cannot produce a pop shot, and the more he aggressively masturbates, the more frustrated and upset he gets, making it harder to achieve the shot. The girl starts to get pissed off. She’s been on her knees for 20 minutes. She’s tried everything, and now you’ve jerked your chicken so fast and so hard that it’s got friction burn. The crew are exchanging glances and the make up artist is yawning in the corner of the room. Sounds horrific, right? Welcome to reality. The wonderful world of porn.

Viagara Isn't a Victory

Another thing I see, especially in new guys, is overconsumption of Viagra. Viagra doesn’t work if desire isn’t present. If you are stressed and worried and don’t find the girl attractive, Viagra will not help you. You are not always going to be attracted to the girl with whom you are working, but if you can find one little thing on her that you like, fixate in on that tiny piece of her and teach your mind to fantasize about it. You want your scene to look natural. There are two things I HATE in porn scenes:

1. A floppy cock. Nobody wants to see that. How the hell is the viewer supposed to get off if you don’t look like you’re having a good time? Damn, I love the way he thumbed his soft penis into her like a marshmallow in a letter box. No one has EVER said that in the history of pornography.
2. Guys that are fucking simply to stay hard. There’s no connection or emotion—just a red-faced guy staring straight ahead while slamming repeatedly into the poor girl. He knows if he keeps pounding away like a jack rabbit, he might be able to maintain the hard-on.

If you have read everything I have written and still want to go ahead, then you must be insane. But I also applaud you. Go get that Best Male AVN award! Follow your dreams and fuck your way through the stars. If you think you can get hard in a room full of sweaty, bored camera dudes, stay hard to fuck a girl that can’t even be bothered to learn your name, open up every position for the camera to see, and produce a cum shot on cue, then you are a better man than I would ever be.