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Life is nothing but one big routine. We get up, go to work, eat, talk to the same people, see the same people, sleep in the same bed, day after day. The same routine can get boring, which is why we constantly look for ways to change it up! What new outfit can I wear? What new foods can I try? Is there something different to do at work? Are there new places to go or people to meet? Sex is no different. Many of us have sex with the same person, over and over and over. It can be absolutely fantastic, but it can also get a little stale. Thankfully, there are plenty of things we can do in the bedroom (and even out of the bedroom) to spice things up a bit!
Wearing lingerie is a simple way to change things up. Lingerie is for people of all genders. Women tend to get the pressure thrown on them to look sexy, but anyone can go out and get a hot little number. Lingerie can cost $10 at Walmart all the way to $70 at a sex shop. No matter what your budget is, you can find something that will be perfect for you and your body. Every single person has a body that is fit to wear lingerie. Wear a body suit, a teddy, a corset, whatever YOU want to wear. Someone in this world will find you attractive, guaranteed.
Flavored lubricant is another tool at your disposal. Use it for oral sex, a yummy smelling massage, or a hand job helper. You can never go wrong with flavored lube, but how much fun are you going to have if your partner tastes like a cup of hot cocoa? Salted caramel? Strawberry? YUMMY! Wicked, Sliquid, and System Jo all offer a wide variety of flavored lubes that won't get sticky or tacky as they dry. They're also made with stevia, a sugar substitute, so they can be used for penetration without fear of an infection!
Satin ties are awesome to use when you want to try sensation play. They're inexpensive and so versatile. You can use the ties as a blindfold, or you can tie up hands and feet... or anything else you'd like! Satin ties are gentle and less intimidating than handcuffs; plus, you don't have to worry about keeping track of any keys. It's a little extra treat when you want to be a little extra dominant.
Cock rings are another awesome tool. You can buy cheap, one-time use rings at any sex shop that are great for experimenting with. Some cock rings even vibrate if you're wanting to take it a step further! They come in many sizes and even different materials, so you can really experiment with them.
*Just a word of caution: Don't keep the ring on for more than 30 minutes. If you keep it on too long, you can break capillaries and really do damage to your penis!!
Sexting is a slightly edgier way to get things heated between you and your partner. Tell them what you're wearing... or not wearing. Tell them what you're thinking about, what you miss, a favorite sexy memory, a fantasy, or anything else you find sexy. Let them know you're thinking about them and they should be thinking about you, too! If you're going to send naughty texts, try giving your partner a warning so they know to guard their phone. Don't worry, whatever you send will still be a surprise! If you take pictures, make sure to leave out any distinguishing birthmarks or tattoos. You never know what could happen if you two breakup...
Going away for the weekend can make a huge difference. Not knowing anybody or any of your surroundings can get you both a little adventurous. Getting away from home, work, friends, and family can be beneficial when you want to focus on each other. It doesn't have to be far or expensive; even a few towns over will suffice. Small vacations are still vacations!
New sex positions can open up a world of pleasure for one or both partners. Take the time to look through a book of sex positions or look on Google. Point out what catches your eye and talk to each other about what you are wanting to try. Just talking about new things can be enough to get the engines revving.
Sex pills can be a fun addition to a long weekend or a weekend away. There are male and female versions. For females, the pills will make you more wet, be more aroused, and have more intense orgasms. For males, the pills will get you aroused sooner, make you last longer, have more intense erections, and more intense orgasms. These pills should not be relied on; they are simply fun, natural supplements to add to your life. Most of them are natural vasodilators, which cause the blood vessels to open and more blood flows to the genitals. Depending on the dosage and how fast your natural metabolism is, each pill will last three to seven days.
Ultimately, each couple has to decide what is best for them. Some couples can go weeks without having sex and it doesn't bother them. Other couples have sex multiple times a day. No matter where you are on the spectrum, decide what's best for you and roll with it. If your sex life is distressing, consider seeing a therapist or trying new things to spice it up. If your sex life is just fine, then no need to fix what's not broken!