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Fine Art of Giving Head

Giving head is a fine art. It takes experience and skill to truly master.

By Lizzie BoudoirPublished 8 years ago 10 min read
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I like to suck cocks. I’m good at it. Unfortunately, not every girl is. Some girls think all one has to do is put the thing in your mouth and roll it around a bit. The guy should be grateful for special favors? Not so, girls! Suppose a guy was going down on you? How would you feel if he just put his mouth down there, rooted around for ten seconds, and let it go at that?

There is an art to the sucking of cocks–just as there is an art to kissing, fucking, muff diving, playing baseball or painting. There are people who can do things well and people who can’t. The most frustrating situation arises when dealing with those who think they are the best—when they aren't worth shit. For them there is little hope, unless you can shake them up.

I don't fear competition. In words attributed to Lana Turner, and which may or may not be anything she actually said but are still true, “Show me a woman who doesn’t give her man a little head and he’s mine—I’ll take him.”

So I am going to tell you all about how to suck cock. First of all, let us define terms. The “technical” term is fellatio, but the idiomatic terms are sucking cock, giving head, going down, “mouth job,” sucking off, “Frenching,” and so on.

There are three basic ways to go about this:

  1. As a preliminary, something to get a guy excited, get him up or to keep him up during a prolonged encounter.
  2. As a way to revitalize his interest after he has shot his wad.
  3. As an end in itself.

Now, personally, I dig all of these, but number three has the quality of one suddenly having to dispose of a mouthful of semen, whereas with numbers one and two–you get him up and then proceed with whatever sex you dig.

Illustration by Keith P. Rein

Spit or Swallow?

Some women hate the taste of sperm, some simply swallow it as a matter of course. Let me say that from my experience men almost universally like you to swallow it. It excites them. I do it because, well what the hell—it's easier. But some women don’t like this. Here is what porn star Marilyn Chambers has said about it: “Guys always say it [semen] tastes salty. It tastes like . . . nothing I’ve ever tasted before, that’s for sure. Men all taste the same. It’s not a strong taste. Maybe it’s the angle you get it at.”

A sexy young thing I know—whose motto seems to be “Get ahead by giving it”—says, “Men all taste different. And the taste changes with the man, depending upon whether he's come recently, or not for some time . . and by the food he eats. I swear I think I can tell what a man had for lunch by tasting his cum!” But whether you swallow it or spit it out, first you have to get the man to come. I’ve had a lot of men—maybe two hundred, maybe more—and I think I’ve gone down on 97% of them. It's just a thing I do. It started in high school. I was afraid to screw, so I did the guys that way and stayed popular. But then I found I liked it. When I got on my own, I really got into it heavily. There was one guy that I went with for six or seven months . . . I think we screwed once or twice, at the beginning. All the rest of the times, which numbered a hundred or so, he came in my mouth. I was a cocksucking junky!

All in the Attitude

There are several techniques; you can use them together, in sequence or varied combinations. There are the physical and the mental outlooks. The mental is very important. This is mental both for you and for him, though probably more for him. There are some guys that feel guilty about getting head, especially if they come that way. They feel it isn't manly enough, that they are too macho to need such stimulation. There are others who dig it, but prefer to be fucking when they come. And then there are those who are just plain head junkies.

The mental attitude you give him is important. I’ve known few men who didn’t like a woman to be (or act) absolutely turned on by giving them head, getting so excited that you come yourself (not once but several times–culminating in one big orgasm as they come!) and in general being so submissive that they can hardly stand it. All this is easy for me, because it happens to be “my thing,” but if you want to try faking this, I think you can be assured it will meet with success with almost any man. Men like to think the sight of a hard cock will arouse a woman—and it does, of course, but that is hardly the only factor. If it were, “flashers” would get laid a lot.

The physical attitude is another thing. There are a number of good positions for this and you should experiment to find out the one that is best for you—and him. One is the position I call the “slave” position. He is standing or sitting and ou are kneeling before him. A man feels very dominant in this pose, and the more a man feels dominant, the quicker and better he comes. The famous “69” is a much touted position, but I have found that it is really not the best position for me. It is a compromise position which means it may not be very good for either partner.

Illustration by Keith P. Rein

The Best Position

The best position-either for cunnilingus or fellatio is with one person between the legs of the other as that person is reclining. It's relaxing for the one being done, and relaxation is essential for most orgasms. The woman can kneel or lie. The lying-down position is all right, except you have to support yourself with your elbows and that isn't always convenient. It also means you usually run out of “bed” and are hanging over the edge. The woman in the kneeling position is good because she can really bob her head up and down, move it around, have both hands free to caress the testicles, stroke the shaft of the cock, and so on. If the man has a really large cock this is a very good position.

Lying on your side—both of you—is also a good and relaxed position. The man can use a lot of easy hip-action to fuck you in the mouth and you have the freedom to move your head away. One of the bad things about sucking cock is that men have the habit of ramming it in too hard, rather than letting you take the pace; if you have the room to move your head away, you can control most of the gagging sensation.

The Worst Position

The worst position is with the man on top. I’ve done it this way and it is the scariest. Men who really go for this are usually the guys who like to ram it in, gagging you. I think they’re sadists; they seem to enjoy ramming it in, beating you in a manner of speaking. Of course, I’ve known a few chicks who seemed to like that, but I think they're in a minority. I like a man who digs dominating, while not being a bastard about it!

Grip

Now we come to the grip. Bending over a guy usually means you have to support yourself with one hand while you hold his cock at the right angle to keep it aimed into your mouth. This is important, as a really active mouthfuck can result in the guy’s prick slipping out and going plop. As a result, the intense mood is broken while you are groping to retrieve his sex. I have given head using no hands, but it can be awkward. I’ve also been fucked in the mouth while my hands were tied (behind me, over my head, etc.) but that usually meant that the guy had to hold his own cock and keep it properly aimed.

Illustration by Keith P. Rein

Tongue and Lips

The use of the tongue and lips are crucial to good cocksucking. It is almost everything, in fact. The most sensitive part of a guy’s cock is underneath, just below the head. There is usually a little soft or wrinkled patch there . . . that's the spot! Lick it, suck on it, tickle it—do anything, almost, and you will please your man. The whole idea is to give that beautiful cock everything your cunt can—only more so!

So now, your lips should be firm to fit snugly around the head and shaft of the penis. Your teeth should be used gingerly, never bite! Your tongue should be that extra something a man can not get in a vagina! The angle is important, too. I've known guys, usually with rather thick cocks, that found it difficult to bend it “down” so that you can get at it from that between the-legs position. If you feel resistance in bending the cock, move up, bend your head so that your forehead is against your partner's stomach. This way he can enter your mouth in a position most natural and easy för him . . . you are almost upside down, but if that’s the best for him—do it!

Deep Throating

Now, the famous down-the-throat method which has been popularized as “Deep Throat” is nothing new, but it does require a considerable expertise that is not part of a “normal” cocksucking method. The reasons are simple: gag reflex and breath. If you can learn to suppress the gag reflex, you can take any size cock as deep as a man can thrust it into you. But don't let him hold it there too long—you have to breathe! Get yourself in a position where you can “get away” and then take him deep. You'll reach a natural “stop” at the back of your throat; this is where the relaxation of the throat muscles help. Once that is done you go down on him further. Advanced technique will enable you to vibrate or massage the cock with your throat muscles. Some women hum. Sooner or later, though, you have to come up for air; so do not get yourself into a position where you cannot back off—you'll pass out from oxygen starvation. I suppose you could actually be killed that way.

I have passed out twice from sadistic bastards, close to orgasm, just forgetting (or not caring!) about me and holding my head while they got off. I panicked, but both times they were too strong and held me; it was only their ejaculation and withdrawal that saved me. Several other times I either fought free or they realized in time what was happening.

Rhythm

A constant even rhythm is the most effective. If the guy feels you are comfortable doing it and are prepared to go on doing it until he comes (or decides to do something else with your fair white body), it will be a more exciting and sensuous experience for him. Noises help, too. I do all mine quite naturally, without prompting or fakery, and I have been told, by men and women alike, that I put on quite a show. “You sound like a porn novel,” one guy told me. Another woman said, “You make me feel so inhibited!” I am uninhibited. If I like something I show it, or say it, or make appreciative sounds. If my mouth isn't full, I yell when I come. Guys love it! The feeling that your mouth is available on a twenty-four hour, anywhere anytime basis is very exciting to a man. Go down on him in a car, in the movies, in the bathroom, behind a potted plant at a party! He'll love you for it and sing your praises to the world.

Perhaps the greatest compliment I ever received was from a Hollywood actor who called me “The Best Head in Southern California.”

“The look on your face!” he would say. “It’s like you are approaching something holy!”

I like to suck cocks. And in case you haven't noticed, I like to talk about sucking cocks; so writing this article was fun. Everyone likes to convert people to things they like.

There is such a thing as a bad blow job. Unzipped: How to Give the Perfect Blow Job by Nicci Talbot aims to rid the world of these atrocities. Including advice on how to precision-train your lips, mouth, and tongue, and sensational new techniques that are bound to get him and keep him turned on, Unzipped is sure to make you a sex goddess in his eyes.

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About the Creator

Lizzie Boudoir

Thrice married, in love once, overly romantic, and hypersexual.

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