Exploring Yourself

What makes you tick sexually?

Curiousness 

People often wonder about their sexual desires. They often wonder at what age should one prowl into their desires. I believe at the age of 16, everyone should understand the basic concept of sex. Now, should they partake in sex? My answer is that’s a conversation for you and your parents to decide. And if you are at a reasonable age then, the world is your oyster. So to everyone out there, I say, just think about it. At what age did you begin discovering yourself? And just know, that no matter what age it may be, know that you are not alone. There is nothing that you should be ashamed of. 

What are some things that make the fire within you ignite? Is it the way your partners' eyes shine when he looks at you? Or is it the way she sways seductively on the dance floor? Either way, we’ve all driven ourselves to complete madness about this topic. 

I can proudly say that I tapped into that ever-growing urge at the age of 16. And now, at the age of 23, I can say that there is still more I strive to learn about myself. Beginning to understand what exactly drives me to the brink of sudden madness and sweet bliss took a lot of patience with myself obviously. I would hear stories from my girlfriends about their wild nights. I would grow warm and blush from the very detailed words they spoke to me. One friend told a story about a guy who basically romanced her off of her feet. She said there was something about the way he watched, listened and took charge. Whenever they would “Dirty Dance”, he was patient with her; scanning every feature of her face to remind him of the glorious moment that they needed to share between them. When her smile turned into that perfect “O” of surprise, she knew that she had finally discovered what it was like to achieve an earth-shattering orgasm.

The Cruel World

I’ll start off by saying that I wish more people weren’t so ashamed of revealing how many people they’ve slept with. It doesn’t make you any less of a person for exploring different things with multiple people. The concept of having a “body count” is actually degrading. No man or woman should be ashamed of how many people they’ve slept with. 

Yes, having sex can be sacred and intimate. Most likely, a vast majority of you will agree that sex should not occur before marriage. But I beg to differ. Some people go years before getting married, others less than often don’t get married at all. So how would it be possible to sexually please yourself when a majority of the world has that same old concept, “That one should not have sex before marriage.” So my question to you now, is, would you sexually starve yourself? The answer would probably be a no. That’s being a hypocrite, don’t you think? The point of this is to embrace that sex and discovering your sexuality should be an amazing and wonderful thing to behold, not chastised for.

The lioness awakens.

You’re finally embracing your inner sex goddess. Now what? I've got three words for you: Go for it! Whether it’s that cute guy sitting next to you in Psych 101 or the redhead that finally agreed to go on a third date with you. Now there are two things you have to do before going out into the big world of sex. The first most important thing is to make sure that there is always consent among both parties before indulging in one another. The second is to have fun. Discover all your kinks and quirks and go with it. At the end of the day, those kinks and quirks are some of the things that make you, you.