Everyone is a Little Bit Gay

Living as a gay person you get to see another side to life that most never get to experience. My experience as a gay man, when regarding sex, has been that everyone’s a little gay, even if they won’t admit it out loud. Since my sexual awakening I’ve been with both men and women intimately, and everyone of them seriously just wants to get there rocks off. Gender, for the most part doesn’t matter. Also when I say ‘everyone’s a little gay’ I mean, it doesn't necessarily mean you are literally having sex with the same sex, but rather, most people will exhibit gay characteristics, behaviors or openness whether sexual or not. There is a broad spectrum from little bit gay and being open to on the down low gay to being an out and proud friend of Dorothy.

Maybe why that ‘everyone is a little bit gay’ is so prevalent in culture is because the Millennial and X Generations have been able to push boundaries beyond what other past generations never could when it came to sex. It is obvious that these generations are ok with gay. Yes agreed the baby boomers of the sexual revolution did open up the sexual pandora’s box but it was still for the most part a heterosexual sexual revolution. LGBTQ people were still hidden away from society and seen as sexual deviants that were ‘sick.’ Today, however, thanks to many progressive people this notion is archaic thinking.

Scientific Research

In the 1920’s the cutting edge psychologist Sigmund Freud claimed, through his research, all humans are born bisexual but through psychological development later throughout life (which includes both external and internal factors) most become monosexual while the bisexuality traits remains in a latent state. If this could be true, then it can explain why most people exhibit bisexual-like behaviors. The latent bisexual behivous pop up every once in a while throughout life. Through more research, sexololigists like Alfed Kinsey created the Heterosexual–Homosexual Rating Scale or just plainly the Kinsey Scale. It was used in sexual research to describe a person's sexual orientation based on their experience or response at a given time. The scale measured from 0 to 10, zero being completely homosexual to ten being completely heterosexual.

More modern developments in sexuality research created the heterosexual–homosexual continuum or the sexual orientation continuum which explains psychological and philosophical understanding of human sexuality that places sexual orientation on a continuous spectrum from heterosexuality to homosexuality. They claim sexuality ranges from exclusive attraction to the opposite sex to exclusive attraction to the same sex. This concept stemmed from the Kinsey's 1940s surveys of sexuality. These studiesshowed significant numbers of Kinsey's subjects reported bisexuality of varying degrees, rather than the strict heterosexual/homosexual division that had been previously assumed. This work was expanded by Fritz Klein, who hypothesized that sexual orientation was a dynamic, multi-variable process, involving attraction, behavior, fantasies, emotional and social preferences, self-identification, and lifestyle.

According to a 2005 statement by the American Psychological Association:

Sexual orientation is an enduring emotional, romantic, sexual, or affectionate attraction toward others. It is easily distinguished from other components of sexuality including biological sex, gender identity(the psychological sense of being male or female), and the social gender role (adherence to cultural norms for feminine and masculine behavior).Sexual orientation exists along a continuum that ranges from exclusive heterosexuality to exclusive homosexuality and includes various forms of bisexuality.

A study from the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found women who self-identify as heterosexual become aroused when exposed to stimulating female images. Gerulf Rieger, the psychology lecturer who led the study, explained:

'Most women responded to both videos of attractive men and women with substantial [genital] arousal as well as pupil dilation," meaning their physiological responses were bisexual, regardless of how they actually self-identify.'

Of all 354 participants, the study confirmed that women who self-identify as lesbians are more attracted to women, it also found that none of the women were more attracted to males. Really! Rieger said 'none of the women, not even straight women, responded more strongly to males than to females.'

It is also noted that while you can't argue with the body's physiological responses. The study unfortunately disregarded several important factors, including the fact that men have a fetish of bisexual women, making it much more socially acceptable for women to identify as bisexual than men. That could certainly contribute to why women are responding sexually to images of other women.

The Gay Agenda

Now there are many bigots still out there that say everyone’s turning gay because of the ‘gay agenda’. Firstly that’s crazy. I’m gay and I know many gay people who aren’t trying to recruit others into the ‘club’. If anything, the club is a little full and we don’t just take anyone. LOL Yes I'm proud to be gay. It's who I am and everything I’ve gone through from gay bashing and teasing to depression and substance abuse to now recovery and self love why would I or others that have gone through their own demons want others to be put through such trauma in life? There is no agenda, believe me, as the orange faced Donald Trump would say. Many people who think there is an agenda will claim that it's due to more gay TV shows, movies, music artist etc are persuading and embedding itself into popular culture. No people, it's because bigotry is becoming passé. What is so wrong with loving and respecting others? Seriously it's not that hard of a concept to understand.

The voice of the new millennium generation, twerk queen Miley Cyrus insisted when she performed at G-A-Y Nightclub in London during 2014 while riding on an inflatable penis ‘Everyone's a little gay.’ She told the audience:

'You know, everyone's a little bit gay. Some of us just a little bit more than others. You know, it's the truth. Everyone's gay. All it takes is one cocktail. And if that doesn't work, sprinkle something in their drink. That’s what I always do.'

Everyone is on the DL unless they're drunk

When it comes to sex, most people just want to get off. My experiences can help in the proof that everyone is a little gay. I’ve been in everything from one on one to threesomes to orgies (Hopefully my parents aren’t reading this). In those experiences, there have been women and men both equally participating in the activity. I had a ‘girlfriend’ before I came out, where we were messing around and two of her friends joined us, male and female. Another time early in coming out guys I assumed were straight made out with me and later in life found out they got married. Also I literally can’t keep count of how many married men I’ve been with. And that is true within the gay community, including married women. Just because you say you’re married or straight doesn't mean you’re straight. This has always been a popular trend within culture. I’ve had my best girl friend’s boyfriend make out with my boyfriend one crazy drunken night. That friend also used to work as a dominatrix where she used to stick dildos in married men's asses. So there that. I’ve seen that sexual exploration is a fact of life whether it be same sex or opposite sex or both.

These are just some examples of how sexuality today is more fluid than ever. My belief is that sexual expression is not binary. We are ever changing and thanks to our culture becoming more and more open, many people who have hidden in the shadows for too long aren’t afraid to be who they want to be. Again I am not saying everyone being a little gay is necessarily gay, it's more a mindset. I appreciate more and more people being open and willing to accept things they don’t quite understand but stand firm in not discriminating and rather embracing it.