Best Sex Positions for Lesbians

Spicing things up in any relationship can be hard, but experimenting with the best sex positions for lesbians can add fun and pleasure.

Taylah and Lola by Cybele Malinowski

Taylah and Lola by Cybele Malinowski

One of the best parts of getting to know a new partner is taking the opportunity to explore what each of you like, and experiment with what works for you. That said, you don't necessarily have to go in blind! 

Check out these tried-and-tested positions that you and your partner can (must!) try out. You may discover a new fun favorite, and it will be fun trying regardless. 

Spooning Positions

Spooning Positions

Positions that mimic spooning and cuddling can be thrilling because they are romantic, and give your partner familiar access to your lady-bits. If you're looking to spice things up, consider bringing you spooning sessions to different parts of the bedroom. 

Seated Spooning: Sit in your partner's lap with your back facing her, and together, spread your legs until you both get comfortable, and go to town. From this position, you'll be able to touch your partner and she will be able to finger you, and the added intimacy of having her voice in your ear will drive you wild. This is a great position to try with a new partner you have really strong feelings for 

Classic Spooning: Chances are you've tried this sexy position already. It is hard not to, lying in bed, curled together, feeling the shape of your partners body. Naturally, this is a great and intimate position to try, allowing your partner to completely envelope you while they finger you. This is a great position to try for women who sometimes have trouble having an orgasm with someone else - the movements and hand-position can make it more familiar to your own touch, and make orgasm easier

Surprise Her in the Shower

Photo by Marilyn Minter

Photo by Marilyn Minter

Look. A lot of what you're going to read about shower and bath tub sex is crap. It may seem like it will always be romantic to get things going in the steam, but shampoo in the eye, drafts, and the chance of slipping are always on your mind. That said, there are actually some great positions for you and your partner to enjoy in the shower that can bring this fantasy to life. 

The Bathtub Spoon: Ok yes, we admit it. A lot of the positions we recommend involve spooning. But it is just so great! And spooning in the bathtub is one of the sexiest ways to go about this. Have your partner lay gently on top of you in the bathtub, and reach around you to finger you with one hand, while playing with your nipples with the other. This is a sexy and intimate position that is perfect for a night of romance, and the heat from the water guarantees some intense full-body feeling. 

Use the Edge of the Bed

Sometimes a slightly different angle is all you need...

Sometimes a slightly different angle is all you need... 

It doesn't sound very romantic, but sometimes good sex is all about finding the right angle. That is why we encourage you to get very familiar with the edge of your bed, and all of the wonders it can offer to you and to your partner. 

There is a lot (a lot) you can do while both of you are in bed, but having one person stand, kneel, or move to the floor can take your sex from good to great. 

Making A Bridge: Lay your upper shoulders on the edge of the bed, and hold up the weight of your body with your feet and knees, forming a "bridge." Have your partner support you with hands under your ass while she eats you out. This is an incredibly sexy position that allows control for both women, and allows for intense eye contact. 

Good Old Oral: Though this may seem a little boring, there is nothing as sexy and satisfying as some good old fashioned oral sex. Having your partner slide to the edge of the bed so you can kneel on the floor gives oral a little extra something, with so much room to move. The level of control in this position is really what makes it exciting. If you love what moving to the edge of the bed does for your oral game, you can also try positioning your partner face-down to add another exciting twist. 

Another Oral Position To Try: Lay with your head hanging over the edge of the bed, and have your partner come straddle your face so you can eat her out while she stands. This change to the standard oral sex allows you and your partner more movement, meaning things can be even more vigorous than usual, with both of you moving and in control. The extra movement and sensation combined with the challenge of remaining standing through all that pleasure makes for some very exciting fun. As a bonus, this position transitions really well into the standard '69.

Some Unusual Positions to Try

Taylah Roberts & Lola Van Vorst

Taylah Roberts & Lola Van Vorst

There are a lot of suggested sex positions for lesbians that are definitely based off a male porn-fantasy, rather than how good they feel for the women. But, there are a few positions that some couples find surprisingly pleasurable, though at first glance they might seem awkward or showy. 

Chair Gymnastics: Have your partner sit on a chair with her knees together. Then, climb on as though you are going to do a reverse cowgirl, but move so your hands are on the floor supporting your weight. This gives your partner plenty of opportunity to go down or you or to get handsy, and the unusual position feels amazing 

Turn It Around: Simply straddling your partner in a chair while making out can make for an intense position. You are fully supported and have the flexibility to lean backwards, or forwards or move together in rhythm, and can be great as foreplay or the main event 

Stand And Lift: This is a position that might seem a little awkward, but it is a simply way to add a twist to your play. Have your partner stand facing you and drape one leg over your shoulder while you start to eat her out. This gives you and your partner control over where you're mouth is, and let's you come together in a very intimate way. 

At the end of the day, we are all different, and are all turned on by different things. A position that works for someone else may be totally boring to you. 

Take the time to really explore with your partner to see what you both like in terms of touch, position, and discussion. This list is a great way to get started, but we're sure you can come up with some creative ideas of your own. 

Annie Kiely
Annie Kiely

Annie Kiely is a freelance writer, editor and researcher who lives in the 'burbs of Toronto with her pets and her partner. Annie is an advocate for wellness, mental health support and literacy, and loves animals and gardening. 

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