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A while back, I read an article that totally shocked me. It stated that the majority of women cannot orgasm from penetration alone, and that only 60 percent of all women actually take time to masturbate. Considering that almost all men do, this means that there is a massive orgasm deficit in orgasms between women and men.
Everyone deserves to know and enjoy their bodies. Both masturbation and orgasms have been linked to better mental health, better physical health, and an overall higher quality of life. Being connected to your body helps you gain confidence and learn how to appreciate yourself.
If you really think about it, learning how to give yourself an orgasm is a really important aspect of self-care. It’s also fairly personal. There’s no cut-and-dry, one-size-fits-all approach to the Big O. Getting multiple orgasms can also be fairly complex.
There are a lot of ways to get a nice, big O without involving sex. This is doubly true if you use high quality toys, like the ones from LELO. If you’re ready to give yourself a real thrill, this quick guide will make it easier than ever to have fun.
1) Meditational orgasms are real.
Believe it or not, some women are able to reach climax just by thinking about sexual fantasies. Lady Gaga, for example, has repeatedly discussed her use of mediation and deep fantasizing as a masturbation tool.
The way that this works is actually pretty straightforward. You need to really psych yourself up and visualize your fantasies. I’ve given this a try multiple times, and so far, I’ve only been able to get one orgasm this way. It was a lot harder than I thought!
That being said, most of us do need a little touching in order to cross the finish line. This is especially true when it comes to getting multiple orgasms. So, if you want to try this method of masturbation, don’t be afraid to mix things up in order to get off multiple times.
2) Don’t ignore the twins.
Do you have sensitive nipples and breasts? If so, you’re definitely not alone. Women who have particularly sensitive breasts can cross the finish line by just massaging them gently. Massage methods vary greatly from “tweaking” your nipples to gently grazing your breasts using the tips of your fingers.
If you want to give this method a try, definitely make a point of varying your strokes. You never know which one will work well for you. Once you find something that works, you’re going to need to continue that work and get yourself more in the mood.
Generally speaking, most women who can orgasm through this method tend to have breast play be a “one and done” kind of deal. That being said, getting your first orgasm through breast play definitely makes it easier to get the next few using the method below...
3) Remember old faithful.
When it comes to women’s pleasure, the most common go-to method for orgasm is through clitoris stimulation. Your clitoris is filled with nerve endings that are directly connected to the pleasure centers of your brain. It’s hyper-sensitive, and offers up a lot of different play methods.
Personally, I find this to be the easiest route to multiple orgasms. It’s also an erogenous area that can be teased and pleased multiple ways. Some women like to rub the labia near it it gently for a sensation that’s not too overwhelming. Others go for a direct touch, while still more enjoy pressing a vibrator or toy up near it. The cool thing is that you can keep orgasming as long as you keep the sensation around your clit going.
You might want to invest in a clitoral stimulation toy like LELO’s Sona Cruise, which sends powerful vibrations throughout a larger portion of the organ. A toy that offers steady vibrations like the Sona is usually better for multiple orgasms because the user doesn’t have to tire out their hands while they get it. It also won’t lose power at that crucial moment.
4) G-Spot play is worth the work.
Your G-spot is located inside your vagina, close to the wall near your belly button. This small spot can be difficult to find at first, but the payoff is very real. This little ball of nerves inside you give epic waves of pleasure that really can’t be beat. Much like clitoral stimulation, you can keep on climaxing as long as the sensation keeps going.
Many women can reach (and massage) their G-spots using their fingers. However, this can be tiring, and it’s not always doable. I, for example, have a G-spot that’s way deeper in than a typical person’s fingers can reach. If you’re a little longer “down there” like me, you will most likely need a toy to reach this pleasure spot.
A good option for G-spot play is the LELO Gigi 2. This award winning vibrator has some serious motor power, but also comes with an elegant curve that is designed to help you find your G-spot faster than ever before.
5) Anal can be great for women, too.
Yes, anal orgasms are real. It took me a while to figure this out! Your anus has a lot of nerve endings around the sphincter. You also can reach your G-spot inside your rectum, which makes both outside stimulation and penetration pretty pleasurable.
Anal orgasms take a while to achieve, and honestly, are best for a second orgasm after some G-spot fun. After all, it’s not like there’s a rule against switching things up when you’re looking for multiple orgasms. That said, some people can have multiple, rapid-fire orgasms from enough anal stimulation at one time.
Toys and a LOT of lube are what you need to have fun back there. I suggest teasing your sphincter with a vibrator, and after a while, lubing up a toy and enjoying the vibes inside. The Gigi 2 is really good for this, too.
Masturbating while targeting both your clitoris and G-spot is a great way to get multiple orgasms faster than ever before. This masturbation method is one of the most intense out there, and generally speaking, is a surefire way to get your rocks off.
Most women who decide to double up on their erogenous zone stimulation tend to do so with a rabbit vibrator like the LELO Soraya. The “ears” of the vibrator target your clitoris, while the larger bulb at the Soraya’s tip hits your G-spot. The steady vibrations mean that you can ride the wave of pleasure as long as you want.
The bottom line…
John Mayer was right when he said your body’s a wonderland. It’s a wonderland that, if explored, will give you wave after wave of pleasure. You don’t need a partner to have an amazing round of orgasms, so there’s really no reason not to give masturbation a try.
When I first started experimenting with my body, I didn’t really have many resources to talk about how to get multiple orgasms. Heck, I thought crossing the finish line once was pretty nifty. National Orgasm Day is all about sex education and learning how to love all the wonderful aspects of your body. So, why not celebrate it with a little self-love?
For some extra help, click the LELO link below and sign-up for a cool video manual on how to achieve multiple orgasms.