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50 Sex & Intimacy Tips for Men and Women

We all need a little help or reminders when it comes to love!

By Susan McCordPublished 7 years ago 7 min read
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Regardless of whether you are in a relationship or just dating at the moment these tips are something to implement into your sex-life.

Many of us forget about the little things that we loved about each other when we first met & we become complacent within our relationships.

This is not something to be taken lightly and nurturing the love between you & your partner should be a top priority on a daily basis regardless of how long you have been together.

Taking each other for granted is one of the top reasons for the divorce statistics today.

You chose each other for a reason - don’t forget why. Keep things fresh & alive by continually adding exciting new memories within your relationship. You wouldn’t stop loving & nurturing your children, so put in the same energy with loving your partner.

Women love romance and if a man knows how to be romantic, he will be able to sensuously lure his lady into the bedroom without persistence. Men love regular sex so this is a win/win situation!

50 Sex Tips & Intimate Suggestions to Keep Your Relationship Strong:

1. Both sexes need to keep sex fresh and alive. Don’t be predictable!

2. Men like women who are willing to explore new things between the sheets & who initiate sex as well.

3. Women like massage/candles/soft words and a man who caresses them. (They do not like to be to be groped or men who are constantly aggressive.)

4. Men love lingerie and a woman who enjoys wearing it. They also like sexual surprises when out for the evening. Many men find it very sexy when he knows what his lady is wearing or “not” wearing under her outfit.

5. Booze-less sex is better than a drunken session. The senses are more alive when sober! (And you actually remember you had sex!)

6. Daytime sex is the best scenario for both genders. Sex after 10pm can become a quick expected routine & not always as arousing because everyone is tired from their busy day.

7. A little naughty talk in the bedroom is alluring for both sexes!

8. Send phone sex messages during the work day. (If you call them at the office ensure they are alone & the speaker phone is off!)

9. Always listen to what your partner says they like during sex.

10. Don’t ignore men’s nipples.

11. Pick up on their desires in & out of the bedroom & use it to your advantage.

12. The smallest romantic gestures will increase your odds of better sex or at least "getting it" once in a while. Head nods towards the bedroom are not considered foreplay.

13. Try new positions. Don’t become a “vanilla sex” creature of habit in the bedroom.

14. Wear cologne or body cream lightly & do not forget the deodorant! You may not think you need it but trust me you do!

15. Learn how to read each other’s emotions & feelings so you know when they are in the mood for love or at least how you can help get them in the mood.

16. Be aware of their body language. Know when something is not right.

17. Light Candles. Hold hands when you are sitting beside them on the couch or across the dinner table and talk with them about things they are interested in. Show them you really care about their life.

18. When you both get home from work take time to unwind quietly for half an hour. No one is ready for a deep conversation. (Or sit together and chat lightly about other things that aren’t stressful.)

19. Men; after your orgasm sex is NOT over! (Sorry I really did have to say this.)

20. Scream out during sex once in awhile let the neighbors know you are not that boring couple after all.

21. Sex is not just penetration or a flip-a-thon! A few positions are always great but you don't always have to show your athleticism.

22. Don’t ask someone if they would like to have sex! Be creative and lure them sensuously into the bedroom.

23. Shave! That goes for both sexes; do a little landscaping. Not everyone wants to venture into the forest.

24. Sexting is great foreplay!

25. Compliment your partner & make them feel good about themselves which gives them confidence that you find them attractive. Body image is very important, especially for women.

26. Don’t wear flannel pajamas, curlers or eye shades to bed or around the house for the matter.

27. Shave her legs or paint her toenails once in awhile - wax his unibrow or give him a foot massage.

28. Wash his/her hair or other pampering things Mom used to do.

29. Dress sexy for them, even at home.

30. Dental hygiene; floss, whiten and keep your breath fresh! Yellow teeth are a huge turn off and get worse with age, be preventative before it happens.

31. Get rid of granny panties & big boy baggy whities!

32. Tell each other what you like & want in bed. Guide each other with your hands. Don’t just lie there like a starfish.

33. Men love women who actually enjoy giving oral sex and who don’t just do it on their partner's birthday because it is expected. The same goes with oral sex for women. (It makes us more comfortable & relaxed when our man enjoys it. Don’t forget to eat a little pineapple!)

34. Think ahead romantically for special occasions. It's not just Hallmark dates that count.

35. Sexual confidence is a "turn on" for both sexes!

36. Take your time during sex; don’t be in a rush for the finish line or happy ending!

37. Find their erogenous zones and work them, especially if you want your partner to get in the mood before your bedroom liaison.

38. Don’t assume that one orgasm is all they are good for. (That goes for men too, ladies.)

39. Have sex outside the bedroom.

40. Make-out on the couch, elevator or in the car like a teenager, especially if you have been together for a while.

41. Tell them often that you love them & want them. Don’t assume they know.

42. Be respectful of each other’s time. Late for a date probably means you won’t get laid that night!

43. Valentine’s Day is a reminder of “romance for dummies” so make other days special for no reason other than you care about them.

44. Don’t be afraid to be a romantic mush-ball occasionally. Let down your conservative guard and really show your soft emotional side. It makes the other person feel special when you show a little vulnerability.

45. Have a naughty “pet name” for them in the privacy of your bedroom and don't be afraid to bring out your best porn star qualities once in awhile.

46. Read or watch something sexy together to spice things up if you feel like your sex life is becoming repetitive.

47. Take turns planning weekly date nights. Be creative! It also keeps you focused on your partner during the time you are prepping for your special night.

48. Never be too busy for your partner! Take their calls, text them throughout the day, make their favorite meal, bring home little gifts once in awhile and always remember dates on the calendar that are important to them.

49. Kiss them deeply every single day, hug them constantly and always get up to greet each other when they come home. Constantly connecting with your partner through “touch” will always keep you close as a couple.

50. Take sexy vacations or mini holidays to refresh your sexual desires for one another. Getting away from the daily routine at home puts you into a different space where you can relax. Make sure there is a double bathtub or hot tub in the hotel where you can share a glass of wine & candlelight together.

Love is like a full time job and the relationships that last for many years are the ones that were nurtured and prioritized above all other life expectations.

The grass is seldom greener on the other side so don’t walk away from a salvageable situation because you didn’t make every effort possible to be a loving partner.

Never forget how to love them or why you fell for them in the beginning. Cherish every moment together and never become complacent.

It really only takes a few minutes a day to remind your partner why you love them.

Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show

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Susan McCord

Susan McCord (Dear Sybersue) is a Dating/Relationship Advice Show Host, Author, Certified Coach & Advice Columnist. She is a mature woman with young sassy attitude! She’s been there done that, has so many T-shirts she can open a store!

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