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No matter how hard we try to fight it, eventually things just get boring in the bedroom. It happens to all of us from time to time. Some strategies for combating this problem are very conventional, others tend to be a bit more exotic.
If you’re finding yourself a bit bored in the bedroom (or you simply wish to preemptively avoid boredom)—check out these three things you can try:
Try a new position
Whether it’s with or without a partner, sometimes all we need to do in order to “mix things up” is to switch angles (literally). Whether it’s with a partner or a sex doll (or a fun combination of the two), switching up positions can do the trick when our sex life is getting a tad dull.
You can find lots of online resources with suggestions for different positions. So long as you find some ideas that are appealing to both of you, you’re on the right track.
Get out of the bed
While sex may be more comfortable in a bed, that doesn’t mean it’s not insanely hot and more fun to have somewhere else. Let’s be honest: while simple love making in the bed is lovely, simple, and something you always come back to, sometimes you need something much more passionate and risque. It’s just human nature.
We don’t just want sex; we want exciting sex. And sticking to the same routine each time is not going to be exciting. So instead of the bedroom, try the shower or even on the table.
Consider a sex doll
Popular amongst collectors and widowers alike, sex dolls have been known to aid people in playing out sexual fantasies in a safe and judgement-free environment.
According to a study done on the impact of sex dolls/robots on health, sex dolls could be beneficial to people who could benefit from sexual practice without pressure. Keep in mind, however, they do warn that this may usher some away from human intimacy. As with all things, moderation is key.
People who own such dolls tend to say that they provide a sense of companionship where they were previously lacking. In a relationship, it’s important to be open to trying new things to keep your love life fresh. Perhaps considering something like small breast sex dolls is an important next step.
While a sex doll may not be everyone’s preferred way to spice things up in the bedroom, it is becoming increasingly popular. In fact, one couple interviewed last year by Metro.co.uk claim that sex dolls can exist in a relationship without difficulty (assuming the real partner isn’t the jealous type).
According to Scott (the one who owned the sex doll initially), “There has never been a time I wanted the doll more than my own woman… So it was never a problem.” This couple uses the doll to fulfill Scott’s sexual fantasies, a good indicator that sex dolls have the potential to be a harmless tool for some couples.
Plus, according to Dr. Peter Kanaris, who did an interview with Vice in 2016, sex dolls can be beneficial to those who do not have a partner due to the human need for sex and intimacy. A need that, he explains, when left unfulfilled can be detrimental to a person’s mental and physical health.
When it comes to a relationship, it’s important to be open and supportive sexually with your partner. After all, sex is good for us, and being supportive in this area is a great way to create and nourish intimacy.